long distance iwaoi is labored intimacy

it's intimacy no longer by proximity but by sheer power of will, by choice, day in and day out

it's cataloguing every single thing you feel throughout the day, good or bad, just so you can articulate it more accurately when you tell him about it later on

whereas it used to be so easy. you didn't /have/ to tell him because he was right there experiencing it with you, but now it's like, you have to make the conscious (and sometimes exhausting) decision to include him in your life every single day or otherwise he wouldn't be

u have to tell him about ur bad day in painstaking detail w/ full context no matter how much u just want to sleep, because otherwise these dismissive moments will just start to pile up & the epistemic gap of a thousand miles will just widen and its something even harder to bridge

it's intimacy built and maintained day in and day out by the two of you multiple times a day, a devotion to each other almost militant