Sex becoming less frequent? Is she increasingly moody?

It's NOT HER. It's YOU. It's your frame.

Been there? It's a slippery slope.

Can you regain frame? Is it not too late? Maybe.

Your best shot? My advice?

Below, 11 rules to keep a strong frame in Long Term Relationships.

Rule #1

You make sure she doesn't give you for granted. Make her work for your attention. Every day.

Rule #2

You remain a challenge. Your presence, your time, is a gift - she has to earn it every day. The more she works for it, the more she will appreciate it.

Rule #3

You complement her only when she deserves it. Your complement is related to what she did.

Rule #4

You let her interest, excitement, enthusiasm, investment, be always higher than yours.

Rule #5

You allow her to show her affection more than you do. You don’t suplicate, you don’t ask for affection.

Rule #6

You keep a mystery side to you. Mystery about yourself. Mystery about how you feel about her. Let her guess, wonder, imagine. She will try to put that puzzle together, chase that mystery.

Rule #7

You don't share your problems with her. You share your solutions. You don't share your doubts with her. You share your decisions.

Rule #8

You command her with your body, with your actions, with your silences. You command her in your day to day. You command her in bed.

Rule #9

You don't engage in drama. She brings drama, you remove your attention. Your silences speak volumes.

Rule #10

If you don't care, don't argue. Ignore. If you really care, don't argue. Make clear where your red line is.

Rule #11

You set clear boundaries, and enforce them. You are ready to remove your attention. You are ready to let her go. She knows you are ready to let her go.

Your frame is all there is.