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It& #39;s so interesting. @jtoomim said it in his interview with @CryptoKelso and it was notably said by @MarcDeMesel too (with @rogerkver even giving a similar sentiment)

"I was hoping @deadalnix would say & #39;thank you& #39; but he didn& #39;t."

That simple thing can fracture a group:

There is no more important phenomenon in the behavior of higher order social mammals than reciprocity (equal exchange of value between individuals). Reciprocity is the glue that binds community.

People who know me will note that I say "thank you" *a lot*, in many different forms

I know from speaking with Amaury that, like me, he actually neither expects to receive thanks from others nor values it very much. I really could care less if you thank me. I don& #39;t do things for thanks.

But the point of saying "thanks" is to "even the score"

It& #39;s ironic but it almost doesn& #39;t matter how much good you do for another person. If you don& #39;t say thank you to them, you& #39;re making a deep signal to their primitive brain that they somehow "owe you" and you aren& #39;t equal. Our psyches HATE this and it always manifests resentment

So, this particular conflict will have to play out as it is and does, but I always am fascinated when the simple traditions that we would call "good manners" turn out to be the actual things holding society together.