thread on periods, birth control, etc ~

weird to say but i always enjoy discussing periods with other girls. growing up i never really had a lot of info and everytime i messed up or had a wrong idea, it had to be fixed by googling, checking online forums or just making +

mistakes myself. so when it comes in the conversation, especially when someone has doubts i love to hear and give my perspective, no matter what it is. it's something we all understand and relate to so we are all just so reassuring and nice to everyone talking about it.

i actually remember my girl classmates being discussing pads vs tampons and there were a couple of guys there watching. i was usually someone who never really talked a lot in group settings but i really became an active part of this conversation.

it came to the point that my at the time bf actually told me he was surprised how open about the subject i was and i remember just being confused and saying something on the lines of "well ofc what's the problem? it shouldn't be taboo" and that's still my view on the subject.

we shouldn't have to get told no when we ask teachers to go to the bathroom bc of our periods and we shouldn't have to get an alarmed reaction when we say what the request is really about or just don't say anything at all bc we are ashamed of saying it in front of so many people.

we also shouldn't be ashamed of having to take our bag/fanny pack/whatever it is to the bathroom to hide the tampons/pads and we shouldn't have to answer the "why are you taking your bag with you in there" question or just stare at the person weirdly. most important of all, we +

shouldn't have to treat this subject like it's taboo and no one besides us and our close girl friends can know about it. i know so many stories of girls whose moms got alarmed when they admitted to be on their period to bfs, guy friends or just their dad/brothers.

that shouldn't happen and it's normal that some older women still think like this but we should start normalizing it, not only by explained our point to see if women AND MEN understand but by actively trying to change the taboo surrounding this topic.

it's also alarming how some public and school bathrooms still don't have pads or tampons disposers when it's such an important item for us. if you are a girl and got caught off guard it's fine to ask other girls to give it to you, no matter who they are. girls gotta help girls +

out! but we shouldn't have to do this at all, there should be a disposer at every bathroom out there.

and from the topic of disposers we can talk about how much money we actually have to spend on pads, pantyliners and tampons. it's quite expensive, long term speaking and it's also dumb how some men still refuse to buy their gfs/sisters/daughters/etc these items bc they are

ashamed or actually don't know what each one of them is. there is still a lot of weirdness surrounding guys knowing about this subject but it's fine when it's us knowing about their sexuality related things, including masturbation but that's a subject for another day. +

talking men, we shouldn't accept how nowadays a lot of the times women speak out or demonstrate anything that isn't plain kindness or agreement to then we get asked if we are on our periods or pmsing. it can be that, sure, but it spreads the myth that us speaking up is abnormal +

and always due to hormones. we have opinions as well and are allowed to show emotions, no matter what time of the month it is. and between our period week, pmsing and the fertile days we basically get a week or two for month of not being on constant struggle with our hormones so+

being hormonal is basically our default state and we are used to it. therefore, we speaking up it's probably not the hormones, we are used to it at this point.

i would like to end this thread by talking about birth control. we, women, are the ones who society dictates that need to be super responsible and spend a lot of money on contraception, (besides the tampon/pads one) since we are the ones carrying the baby when a pregnancy +

happens unexpectedly. and the pill isn't 100% safe, just like condoms sometimes go wrong. but talking pill wise, we use them not only to protect us from pregnancies but sometimes bc we are getting some unwanted side effects and they help sorting it a bit out. the problem is to +

fix some side effects, we get new ones that affect us mentally, making us super moody, emotional and sad just to be safe or "fine". and those are exactly the things we get stereotyped and attacked for everytime just for being women.

i would just like to point out that scientists invented an actual pill but for men, to avoid getting us pregnant, but it didn't come out to the stores. why? bc there were too many side effects. side effects that we women have to endure anyways.

the double standards are real in this subject but no one talks about them openly, except social media from time to time.

i wish more information was spread about these topics, especially to young girls who still aren't familiar with them, but not only them for sure. and these problems should get way more attention from everyone and be normalized. i hope we are the generation that makes a difference