Read on Twitter
Does it genuinely feel insincere?
I always enjoy it both ways as it shows one empathizes and you're not alone in whatever's occurring. https://twitter.com/fxckingVALID/status/1291031641369051136
I always enjoy it both ways as it shows one empathizes and you're not alone in whatever's occurring. https://twitter.com/fxckingVALID/status/1291031641369051136
And as @taekeyedin rightly points out. This is common amongst neurodivergent folks.
So maybe it should be treated as harmless unless it's actually invalidating or hurtful to someone within such a conversation.
So maybe it should be treated as harmless unless it's actually invalidating or hurtful to someone within such a conversation.
Not that it's something that should be "normalized" in either direction. Its gonna be completely dependent on the situation, the individuals and the vibe of the conversation.
And if you do misread the room, trust the individual to be understanding.
And if you do misread the room, trust the individual to be understanding.
I can name plenty of situations where I've done it and regretted it.
I can name situations where it's the other way round and I've felt invalidated.
But predominantly I see a conservation as a two way street
I can name situations where it's the other way round and I've felt invalidated.
But predominantly I see a conservation as a two way street
And would much rather hear an anecdote that's similar to my experience than some bullshit advice or judgement....as then power dynamics come into play (unless I'm asking for advice/judgement)
And I dont wanna be the "the Twitter hot take is ableisttt" guy as I think the truth lying in the middle here transcends neurotypes (just naturally more intense for people who do struggle with traditional means of interaction)
Just to clarify I'm not denying it's an autistic trait. Because it is. But it's also not exclusively that. Which I appreciate is hard/risky to convey on twitter.
I remember the boiled piss when someone pointed out all humans mask/present differently to different people.
I remember the boiled piss when someone pointed out all humans mask/present differently to different people.
My point being it's a shitty tweet (and the irony that its selfish of you that the conversation isnt exclusively about the other person hit me this morning)
But lets not interpret it as some sort of malicious attack on a specific group of people.
But lets not interpret it as some sort of malicious attack on a specific group of people.
Also the OP points out they're saying that because it's a trait they dont like in themselves (so once again piling on is inappropriate)
BUT
I for one welcome it in my direction. So feel free to share counter-stories to mine as it makes me feel less alone.
BUT
I for one welcome it in my direction. So feel free to share counter-stories to mine as it makes me feel less alone.
TLDR: it's harmful when its 'my problems worse than yours' or 'well my life is grand'
But when its sharing experiences to empathize its lovely, and I'd rather hear how someone solved a problem rather than 'damn that's crazy' or some hollow advice.
But when its sharing experiences to empathize its lovely, and I'd rather hear how someone solved a problem rather than 'damn that's crazy' or some hollow advice.
