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How to do your best for yourself
Identity & pressure balance
How to do your best for yourself
Identity & pressure balance
Some people do their best under pressure
Some do their best with little to no pressure
Analyzing all my wins & losses revealed what my type is
Some do their best with little to no pressure
Analyzing all my wins & losses revealed what my type is
I personally do my best work when there is almost no pressure beyond showing up
With twitter I have zero expectations, deadlines, metrics to track, etc
Gives me total freedom to express and just âship itâ
With twitter I have zero expectations, deadlines, metrics to track, etc
Gives me total freedom to express and just âship itâ
With clients
The ones that always made me feel my job was in question
With unrealistic expectations
Iâd unconsciously stop investing effort,
because it felt like at any minute it could all disappear
The ones that always made me feel my job was in question
With unrealistic expectations
Iâd unconsciously stop investing effort,
because it felt like at any minute it could all disappear
The clients who constantly praised my work. Let me do my thing.
Didnât blow up my phone
Had realistic & specific expirations & deliverables
Iâd do my best work for
Didnât blow up my phone
Had realistic & specific expirations & deliverables
Iâd do my best work for
In soccer
When I knew my starting position was guaranteed
When I knew the coaches and players liked me no matter what
Iâd score 2-4 goals a game
When I knew my starting position was guaranteed
When I knew the coaches and players liked me no matter what
Iâd score 2-4 goals a game
When my spot & likeability was in question
Iâd play more timid and would only score a few goals a season
Iâd play more timid and would only score a few goals a season
When I was working front desk at a gym
I knew everyone there liked me. My pay was guaranteed
I was totally free to express
and because of that connected with team members & customers on a deeper level, providing great service
I knew everyone there liked me. My pay was guaranteed
I was totally free to express
and because of that connected with team members & customers on a deeper level, providing great service
This is my specific personality type
Others do best under pressure, back against the wall
I feel a good balance for me and many others is:
Room to express & breathe.
With simple deadlines that are easily met, as simple as showing up & a specific small task to do
Others do best under pressure, back against the wall
I feel a good balance for me and many others is:
Room to express & breathe.
With simple deadlines that are easily met, as simple as showing up & a specific small task to do
Because anything beyond that task and youâre seen as someone who overdelivers
Making it VERY easy to develop an identity of being a winner
On the other hand...
Making it VERY easy to develop an identity of being a winner
On the other hand...
When no matter what you do still feels like under performing
the identity is that of âI donât do good workâ
For this reason when working with people praise them and their identity becomes a great worker
the identity is that of âI donât do good workâ
For this reason when working with people praise them and their identity becomes a great worker
âBy your words you shall be justified & by your words you shall be condemnedâ
When a mistake is made criticize the action, not the identity
If your team member messes something up donât say
âlazyâ
âyou do a bad jobâ
Say âoh I used to do that too, hereâs how I do it nowâ
When a mistake is made criticize the action, not the identity
If your team member messes something up donât say
âlazyâ
âyou do a bad jobâ
Say âoh I used to do that too, hereâs how I do it nowâ
This applies for friends and dating as well
Highlight & praise their best qualities you want to see more of
If a negative quality is worth bringing up make them feel safe
by criticizing the behavior not the person
Highlight & praise their best qualities you want to see more of
If a negative quality is worth bringing up make them feel safe
by criticizing the behavior not the person
They feel good emotions from the praise and it creates an identity
Constantly point out their flaws and that becomes their identity around you
Be the person who when others are around you their best identity is attached to you
Constantly point out their flaws and that becomes their identity around you
Be the person who when others are around you their best identity is attached to you
Thank you for reading,
Cheers
- Yous
Cheers
- Yous
