Break ups are sore ! But you eventually get over it gradually - it’s a process. This isn’t my brand but let me share how I got over mine

Acceptance : this was important for me! Give yourself time to grieve your loss; you have, after all, u lost someone you love. Be gentle with yourself as you move through the pain of breaking up with someone you care for.

Family and friends : find a support structure in them. But choose wisely because sometimes it can be risky. Aim to get support from those on your side. Those who will encourage you to heal and pick yourself up. Not those who will make you feel terrible about the break up.

People will always ask : some will genuinely ask what happened but some people have bad intension , to remind you of the pain you wanna get over. You don’t owe anyone any explanation. If you feel like talking about it, do it when you comfortable

Delete all the pictures, infact unfollow your exes on all your social media platforms. Do this slowly and take it one day at a time. Healing is a process. Don’t rush to start on a clean page overnight.

Staring at your photos might make you forget why you broke up in the first place. Those beautiful videos, couple content etc. don’t be distracted. It was cute yes but it’s done.

Drink in moderation : Drinking a lot [after a breakup] can increase your chances of doing things you might not want to do. Have fun responsibly.

And No!!! “You don’t have to be a hoe”. Your friends will probably say, get another D*. This won’t help you deal with the ache! Just identify things you always wanted to do ! Like pick up an online course, get a personal trainer, start eating healthy, volunteer ..

Music : create fun playlist , like happy mood dance steps. Also ask people to suggest music playlists for you.

Affirmations: once you realize that you deserve better! Letting go becomes easier. Always remember the red flags that u ignored. Give yourself a little pat! “Girl boss” “ king”. The it girl ! Remember who you were before the relationship. U still that !

Work !!!! : crying in comfort is definitely better ! Make boss moves, buy yourself luxury and comfort. “Crying in material comfort is definitely better”. We different ! I think shopping is therapeautic. Buy yourself stuff. Self care : physically and mentally.

Connect : comedy nights , calls, dress up - pick up a new book. Start reading , watch Netflix.

If you shared a home : move furnitures around. Change lines, carpets , fumigate , get those little decors and some fresh side lamps. Buy a new scent. Change key colors, Matt,

Routines : change it ! He slept on the left side of the bed ? Throw some pillows to fill the space or sleep horizontal. Stretch those legs sista !

Mantra / Zen / spiritual : scented candles did it for me oh and meditation. - soak , soak and soak. Attend a virtual Yoga class. Breath ! I am serious, u gonna need to breath

Diary entries | journal : this is not for you to talk about how horrible it was . Make it your gratitude journal. Focus on things you grateful for, don’t dwell on things you couldn’t change. It’s over after all.

Mutual friends / connected families : for the sake of your Zen, you might want to see them less! Connect in moderation. You don’t want your ex’s life updates.

Flirt : going to the shopping centre for essentials and someone is flirting with you ? Oh honey, if you like... flirt back. There isn’t a manual really, also you can’t be hard on yourself.

Trouble sleeping : very common !! But gets better, bathing before bed as opposed to shower helps. Soft jazzy music in the background ? Perfect or simply get meds.

Embrace time alone : Solitude can lead to self-discovery and healing.

Understanding the source of painful emotions that come up after a breakup can help us better understand ourselves.