The whole 50/50 conversation is weird to me and indicative that many of you all have not seen functioning marriages or understand money. I've never actually seen my parents squabble over who paid what bills, I just know they got paid.

I know at the beginning of my parent's marriage my dad paid all the bills. My mom was in school and wasn't really making much. He hustled it was NYC in the 90s, 3 kids. They figured it out.

We moved to Cleveland, my mother was a new nurse and worked nights. My father basically raised us, he cooked, cleaned, took us to school. He didn't go back for his masters because my mom was working and we were young.

Now today my mother makes twice as much as him. But none if that would have been possible without their sacrifices.

Income is fluid, life changes, so if you're walking into a marriage with money at it's center youre going to have serious problems. To me marriage is about choosing who you're going to face life with, who you can trust when's things are great but moreso when times get dark.