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Hi, good day to you all, my name& #39;s Kalif Bolu Ogundaisi, @ManLikeKalif is my main handle. Inside the last week we& #39;ve had (quasi) interaction on this Twitter platform, of which was based on my apprehension of the pictured tweet.
Hi, good day to you all, my name& #39;s Kalif Bolu Ogundaisi, @ManLikeKalif is my main handle. Inside the last week we& #39;ve had (quasi) interaction on this Twitter platform, of which was based on my apprehension of the pictured tweet.
I& #39;ll now proceed to take my time and objectively show you the problematic nature of said tweeted message.
Not for any reason other than the infinitesimally small chance that you genuinely don& #39;t see the problem, not just that you& #39;re being vindictive & infuriatingly self absorbed.
Not for any reason other than the infinitesimally small chance that you genuinely don& #39;t see the problem, not just that you& #39;re being vindictive & infuriatingly self absorbed.
I will be leaving any personal bias I have out of this thread, I won& #39;t insult you or make any individual criticism. That said, I& #39;ll get to it.
This tweet roughly translates into; "why do some straight women seek out and approach lesbians for their repressed sexual fantasies" i.e that is not okay, that is wrong, and anyone who intentionally does that is a bad person.
First thing that needs pointing out is that it is impossible for a conceptual straight woman (i.e a woman who has absolutely no attraction to women) to want to sleep with a woman. What you can have is a queer woman in the closet who identifies as straight (for whatever reason)
We as people CANNOT simulate desire, we have no idea how to even begin to do so, it is one of the biggest failures of human science. Desire can be compelled, but not fabricated, otherwise sentient computers would be a thing & we& #39;d have far fewer problems as a species in general.
The best we have is that we can channel desire & apply it to something else, e.g a woman sleeping with a man she considers unattractive, for the purpose of obtaining remuneration of some sort, what she desires is the money, & she channeled that desire at her unattractive man
We can& #39;t say we want to sleep with a person JUST to sleep with them, if you aren& #39;t attracted to them to begin with. The requirement for wanting sex is attraction (this applies to ALL things that have sex) i.e she& #39;s attracted to you i.e she& #39;s actually not really "straight"
You couldn& #39;t possibly want to sleep with a person just to "know what it& #39;s like" if you& #39;re not attracted to them AT ALL. The idea is conceptually impossible.
The next thing that needs clarifying is sexualization or fetishisation. The first point about this is that there is nothing wrong with sexualization in ANY context, UNLESS the PERSON being sexualized expresses disapproval, i.e even in a neutral context, it is okay.
This means that the sexualization of any object or concept is not only fine but normal, the only context where it could be wrong to sexualize something is if the something is a person and the person disapproves. If a person is okay with being sexualized then there is no wrong...
For example, porn stars & sex workers are people who capitalize on being sexualized. They create entire personalities on the idea of sex, often showing little of themselves that is not in a sexual context, the identity is based on sexualization. And that& #39;s okay too.
Sexualization, as I said, is normal e.g "I really want some dick right now" Or "I really want to fuck a woman with a fat ass". Any kind of thinking about sex would need you to sexualize at least 1 thing, literally EVERYONE does it, & every person has at least 5 fetishes.
The next point about sexualization is that one CANNOT sexualize sexuality, the very concept of sexuality is LITERALLY "the sexualization of the human condition"
Saying a sexuality is sexualized is like saying "that water is wet"
You CANNOT wet water, you wet things with water
Saying a sexuality is sexualized is like saying "that water is wet"
You CANNOT wet water, you wet things with water
You sexualize a thing by adding sexuality (of any kind) to it, or the idea of it.
Now that I& #39;ve explained the prerequisites, I& #39;ll get to the main issue
Now that I& #39;ve explained the prerequisites, I& #39;ll get to the main issue
This tweet is telling it& #39;s subject; the "straight" woman; "don& #39;t come to lesbians for your girl on girl sexual fantasies, we don& #39;t like it, and we don& #39;t want you here" and since we& #39;ve established that the hypothetical woman in question is actually a closeted queer...
...the tweet would mean "closeted queers should stay away from us proud queers, we are not a safe space for you or your alienated desires"
A gay woman is basically telling another gay woman to fuck off with her sexuality, simply because the other can& #39;t fully & openly admit it.
A gay woman is basically telling another gay woman to fuck off with her sexuality, simply because the other can& #39;t fully & openly admit it.
The tweet implies its okay for lesbians to seek other lesbians for their sexual fantasies, just not straight women. Only difference between the two types of people here is "pride" in their sexuality, leaving the only possible problem to be that they can& #39;t admit being gay
Basically a gay person(who was probably previously closeted themself) is condemning someone else for being closeted, condemning someone else for being exactly how they usedto be. You& #39;re supposed to understand, to be their safe space, because you literally were them at some point.
It really shouldn& #39;t be so hard to see how the tweet is very effectively eroding years of work at creating environments for LGBTQ acceptance, be it the closet kind or the proud kind.
And in the unlikely event that this isn& #39;t what you& #39;re trying to say with your tweet, this is what it would mean to someone else who reads it, especially the closeted queers being referred to, as such it would be prudent to remove it or correct the message you& #39;re proliferating.
In the other unlikely event that your problem is with being "hit & quit", you didn& #39;t like that they slept with you & left you, then, again, the problem isn& #39;t with "straight" women approaching lesbians, the problem is with those particular people being trashy individuals
And in the final unlikely event that what you have a problem with is how they approached you or their entitlement to your involvement, then, AGAIN, the sexual identity of the person STILL wasn& #39;t the problem, the harassment they relayed at you was the problem.
So ultimately, the tweet is very misplaced and it is attacking a guiltless demographic ("straight" women/closeted queers) whom would be made even more confused about their feelings and desires, as their options for self expression have seemingly become even more narrow still.
For anyone who felt gaslit by my previous responses, that had nothing to do with what I said and everything to do with projecting personal misunderstanding onto me. I understood the tweet as soon as I saw it, which is the very reason I had a problem with it.
Good day again.
Good day again.