in cases where straight women and gay men get married, most of the time these gay men can still go out and fuck around.

whereas if the wife finds a guy outside who actually loves her, i won't imagine how people would scream at her, say she is a whore, abandoned her family etc. +

this is a perfect example where gay men still benefit from the patriarchy because we are privileged to fuck around even if one day we go and marry a woman because we don't feel safe coming out. but when the woman wants to find someone who will love her for real she gets bashed. +

so i will say this as a gay guy myself, if you as a gay guy cannot come out, stay alone and never marry a girl. you are wasting her life away.

end of thread.