Ok—Tired of how everyone besides #adoptees defaults to glorifying adoption vs being open to the truth that it’s trauma. Tired of people I trust enough to share about this adoption trauma I’ve survived & am surviving ~still~ defaulting to glorifying it or assuming I’m an exception https://twitter.com/stoweyvik/status/1290341292602544128

Tired of the fact I’ve met only a handful of bio relatives—even after supposed reunion on one side 20y/a & the other 1y/a. Tired of people expecting me not to question or confront any responsible party or demand answers & reasons. Tired of my identity being legally stolen from me

Tired of the name my adopters gave me & confused why I hold onto it. Tired of the fact reclaiming my bio name means legally & confused why it also doesn’t feel right. Tired of this confusion @ my big age—it’s hard enough w/ a deadname but the added confusion makes my head spin

Tired of how almost every non-adoptee I’ve met has a positive view of adoption & automatically expects adoptees to be super grateful for it; to only speak of positive feelings about it; to never express real feelings about adoption trauma, falsified identity, lack of rights, etc.

Tired of non-adoptees being tired of hearing about adoption trauma after 1 or 2 adoptees share our authentic lived experience. Tired of how they shut us down, stonewall, gaslight, & censor us bc they‘re unwilling to confront or acknowledge the truth w/ someone who‘s surviving it.

Tired of adoptees still in the fog not respecting those who aren’t—censoring, gaslighting, telling our stories, & pushing us to not only allow them in our spaces but abuse, censor, & gaslight us when we‘re speaking about adoption trauma & against the adoption industry/system.

Tired of some TERF adoptees using adoption & abortion debates to be transphobic—& oddly following me when they’re literally against who I inherently am as a QTGNC 2S person. Guess they’re cool w/ me as long as we don’t share a bathroom or I don’t talk about my actual gender

Tired of discovering ppl who know a lil or lot about my birth/family/adoption story—even when I don’t—nonconsensually sharing it for their own benefit & not my reconnection... from a bio sibling I met 1X virtually to a doula who uses my story to teach paying students & clients

Ok I’m done. Hope this thread & the one that inspired it by @stoweyvik are helpful for exposing folks to #AdopteeVoices & cutting thru some of the global propaganda that normalizes/glorifies adoption despite the trauma, secrets, lies, colonialism, & savior complex it’s built upon