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I& #39;ve been hearing some form of this since yesterday. My phrasing of "told me I& #39;m doing it wrong" seems to have brought up all kinds of negative feelings in people. Let& #39;s talk about it. What is it about the word "wrong" that makes y& #39;all feel some kinda way? https://twitter.com/piannaf/status/1290387754753433603">https://twitter.com/piannaf/s...
I& #39;m open to the conversation, but it has to be more than "it makes me feel bad". Not everything that makes you feel bad indicates an actual problem. What I& #39;m trying to understand is what is it about hearing "this is wrong" that makes some people unable to engage after that?
I understand that there are people who have developed a negative association when things are phrased as "right" or "wrong". I don& #39;t have that association, and I& #39;ve talked to others who don& #39;t feel that way. I think there& #39;s a real gap in communication that stems from that framing.
Some folks think I may have primed the response by talking about toxicity. I can understand that. But it still requires critical thinking. I didn& #39;t make it up. I& #39;m referring to a real trend I see where people don& #39;t want to have their work critiqued. https://twitter.com/georgetakesajob/status/1290389446836314118?s=19">https://twitter.com/georgetak...
But it& #39;s more than that. We& #39;re talking about professional software development work. There is actually such a thing as "this level of quality is not acceptable for our business". That& #39;s the part people seem to have a hard time with. Good intentions is not sufficient for shipping.
I hear you on psychological safety. Y& #39;all know I& #39;m an advocate of that. But if the only way you can feel "safe" is if no one critiques your work, that& #39;s not a reasonable expectation for a business. Not to mention you& #39;re doing yourself a disservice. https://twitter.com/decoy_orange/status/1290393608420339712?s=19">https://twitter.com/decoy_ora...
I& #39;m trying hard to get past this part of the convo. I understand this is hard for some people. It& #39;s a real thing, and I& #39;m not dismissing it. I am asking those people to talk about what expectations they have of themselves rather than other people. https://twitter.com/JacksonBates/status/1290394096717066240?s=19">https://twitter.com/JacksonBa...
I& #39;m asking to find the space between "this is toxic and no one should deal with this" and "I can only thrive in an environment that is exactly tailored to my communication and learning style". That second thing is hard to talk about.
I& #39;ve worked hard to figure out how to ask this in a way that feels reasonable. But we have to find a way to talk about it. I believe this is a missing piece of the practical discourse on how to create inclusive environments and help people be successful in them.
