Read on Twitter
Dear Mazan Arewa,
I have a genuine question. Why are we afraid to marry female doctors? Or why do we say we cannot marry a female doctor? The funny thing is even the most educated & exposed among us have this mentality. Is it fear of the unknown? Or what exactly? Let us discuss!
I have a genuine question. Why are we afraid to marry female doctors? Or why do we say we cannot marry a female doctor? The funny thing is even the most educated & exposed among us have this mentality. Is it fear of the unknown? Or what exactly? Let us discuss!
Our popular excuse is & #39;she will not have time for me or kids& #39;. Her busy schedule will not stop her from being a good mother. From medical school to practice, she loses friends & social life. She can work for 2 straight days. Sometimes she doesnt eat & only beg for time to pray.
Do you know the mental & physical stress this beautiful souls go through? If you know, you will be surpised that they still manage to smile. A lot of them have crashed while on duty. A lot of them cried while in medical school, asking themselves why they chose medicine.
And all their sacrifices for what? To save the lives of your father, mother, wife & siblings. Then Arewa will add its stigma that we cannot marry you because you are a doctor. How is that fair? They are caregivers. But they also are humans & they can break. They need the care too
The irony is that same person that cant marry a doctor will want a female doctor to attend to his wife. When he meets a male gynaecologist, he will grumble, frown & finally say & #39;ai larura ne& #39;. Deep in his mind, he is both worried that his wife is sick & she is seeing Dr. Emeka.
This the paradox of our people. So she is not supposed to have a husband or you think her husband is a fool? We just fear so many baseless things kaman ba musulmai ba, forgetting that whoever put his trust in Allah SWT, He will surely find a way for him.
Some girls marry in medical school, have kids & their female coursemates will be wondering how they are able to do it. I heard a story of a med student that came to exams on Friday, gave birth on Saturday & showed up on Monday for exams. Somehow they manage to pass. Allah kenan!
You see, Allah SWT made females to be more compassionate. A female doctor can help you & your entire family in ways you can& #39;t imagine. The time that she does not have now will not be forever. There are stages & various specialisations. Dont worry excessively about unborn kids.
Sai ka ga Allah ya sauwake maka alamura & you have well raised & mannered kids. Afterall, guidance is from Allah alone. We have asibitin musulmai that we cant even maintain because there are no female doctors to employ. If you cant be a supportive husband, dont discourage others.
Everyone has his plan, beliefs & what works for them. If you cant stand a career woman, dont marry a lady with ambition & kill her dreams. If you dont want your wife to study, dont deceive your inlaws that you will allow her to continue her education & change mind after marriage.
If you can& #39;t marry a female doctor, dont expect your wife to be treated by 1 because that will be the height of hypocrisy. As long as it is within the confines of Shariah, educating a girl child & allowing her to contribute to the society has lots of benefits to the entire ummah.
Medicine is a noble profession. Don& #39;t be selfish everytime. Dont make the fear of not having husband be the reason why a genius will refuse to apply for medicine. Let us learn to support & encourage these rare gems. Remember, educating a woman is educating an entire nation.
