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Years ago, marriages were carefully planned between individuals. Yes, there was love but most families looked beyond love to nitty gritties like can the man take care of the woman? Can the woman keep the home so that he will have the peace of mind to work?
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Women learned vocations and did the sort of jobs they could combine with both home management and childcare.
Thus, her family would check the man's background to see if he was hardworking enough. Also, they checked to see if there was a history of chronic disease,
Thus, her family would check the man's background to see if he was hardworking enough. Also, they checked to see if there was a history of chronic disease,
in his family because they knew how having a child with a disease could affect the couple.
Women who were lazy in working or keeping the home weren't acceptable. A man's pride was regarded to be his children and because it was primarily the woman who raised them, he needed
Women who were lazy in working or keeping the home weren't acceptable. A man's pride was regarded to be his children and because it was primarily the woman who raised them, he needed
someone who could raise them right whiles managing the home. Women who also had relatives with chronic diseases etc weren't acceptable either.
Now, times have changed and it should because time moves forward constantly, and the precepts behind marriage has changed.
Now, times have changed and it should because time moves forward constantly, and the precepts behind marriage has changed.
Families seldom, if never, check the backgrounds of their children's spouses to-be. The main statement is "if this is the person you want to marry then we are ready to accept them into our family."
You would think this would be enough to have a good marriage. You would think
You would think this would be enough to have a good marriage. You would think
being free to marry someone irrespective of their financial background, whether 10 of their relatives have chronic diseases or insane, etc would be enough to have a good marriage but no, it's not.
It's become worse. People fall in love without a reason for that love.
It's become worse. People fall in love without a reason for that love.
Example: a young man will meet 10 hardworking ladies who know how to keep a home and build a good future with and be confused which one to choose because he doesn't have a good reason to marry.
Read the following reasons why most people are getting married today:
Read the following reasons why most people are getting married today:
Some are marrying because they're old.
Because everyone is marrying.
Because they want to prove a point.
Because they're bored.
Because they've achieved a lot and see marriage as another thing to conquer.
Because they think they have to.
Because they're being pressured to
Because everyone is marrying.
Because they want to prove a point.
Because they're bored.
Because they've achieved a lot and see marriage as another thing to conquer.
Because they think they have to.
Because they're being pressured to
Because they liked somebody's wedding and want same.
Because they think they have to.
There is no tangible reason for choosing one person over the other.
We are confusing emotions and dating those we love but leaving them for people we respect because we think we can...
Because they think they have to.
There is no tangible reason for choosing one person over the other.
We are confusing emotions and dating those we love but leaving them for people we respect because we think we can...
...build a good home with them and not the one we love. Then we come back to cheat with the one we love. What is wrong with us? Look, some of you reading this have no need marrying this year because you're not ready. You are doing this under pressure (peer, unplanned pregnancy...
You are the people who usually spend tens of thousands on a wedding only to regret the marriage later and have to spend more money getting a bitter divorce later.
Was it worth it? Will it be worth it?
It's high time singles actually paid attention to stories shared by...
Was it worth it? Will it be worth it?
It's high time singles actually paid attention to stories shared by...
...married couples to draw lessons from them. If not, you may end up repeating the same mistakes they made and make a mess of your lives and that of your innocent kids.
Now let me ask you this, putting love aside, why do you want to marry this person?
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Now let me ask you this, putting love aside, why do you want to marry this person?
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What if you are wrong about them and you won't have the sort of future you think you can have with them?
What if 5 years from now, you actually meet someone who ticks all your boxes, what will you do?
What if that person you'll love to be with finally comes back for good?
What if 5 years from now, you actually meet someone who ticks all your boxes, what will you do?
What if that person you'll love to be with finally comes back for good?
What will you do if they get involved in a terrible accident, can't walk, have a serious heart condition needing constant care which might mean resigning from work to take care of them? Answer these honestly and you'll know if you have a good reason to marry or not.
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