I think it's pretty a) misogynist, b) infantilizing and c) cisheterosexist to insist that some mythic "inherent attraction" is the primary/sole determinant of sexual orientation. https://twitter.com/Dombeeduck_/status/1289776157743706112

Like do you really wanna claim that a man who abuses his wife but only cums to gay porn is "just as oppressed" as the gay couple that faces daily harrassment?

Are you gonna claim that the bored housewife who pines after the cute neighbour has it "just as bad" as the lesbian whose shitty ex is preventing her partner from getting custody of her children?

Such comparisons are, as you can see, patently absurd. Material reality is of far utility in describing oppression than some intangible "feeling" or "sensation" of being not-het.

Of far greater utility*