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lrt yes. yes. yes. yes. yes. ive endured trauma from people who could not conceive of themselves as being capable of causing hurt and thus bore the blame because my assertion of my feelings made them feel bad thus the hurt was all my fault
do you have any idea what it does to you to be a survivor who has very carefully recomstructed faith in yourself and your feelings and then have things like that turned around on you because you spoke out about having feelings and didn't sit idly by to be pushed around
ill say it. mfrp is brimming with people who are incapable of understanding others' hurt unless it is presented in a semi-scripted roleplay scenario. people who are incapable of conceiving of others as people in their own right and not just set pieces for their lives
i had a friendship through roleplay in which i was never party to the words "I'm sorry". this friendship lasted over a year and i heard that phrase exactly 0 times
even went back and looked through logs (when i still had them) to verify this claim and it is not an exaggeration; sentiments of ownership of one's behavior were exhibited maybe twice and they purposely omitted this phrase
sorry i just needed to get this off my chest that like. when i talk about maintaining my boundaries and being cognizant of the sphere of my influence etc. it is in earnest because of fairly recent occurrences in my life that show me i need to be careful of where i put my energy
im not gonna start shit by writing a callout or something like that bc it is fundamentally not worth my time and energy when people won't accept that they have work to do... and also because it's an attitude that's ingrained in the upper echelon of the mfrp community,
and therefore i would be 1. inviting reprisals and 2. hard pressed to even enumerate the dozens of people who approach relationships this way
if you're wondering if this is about you, it probably isn't, because the people im talking about have a cognitive block against accepting responsibility in any capacity so they will immediately assume im mud slinging baselessly
this thread will be vagueposted about on a few locked accounts and if you see that i just want you to think abt why that is
