Thread by @ninjagoelectric, I have 4 people I'd consider my best friends. Out of them, [...]

I have 4 people I'd consider my best friends. Out of them, two are girls. One of those girls now lives kinda far away so I don't see her that often. The other goes to my school and so I spend a lot of time with her and obviously that leads to everyone thinking we like each other

I would give my life for either of them, as I would for my guy best friends aswell. I love them with all my heart but that doesn't mena I'm in love with them.

The connection I have with them is stronger than I have with most other people.

However I would never never never date them. I'm not attracted to them like that to any degree. And I especially would not want to have sex with them. I don't see them like that, I see them as friends

And I know they see me the same way. We look out for each other and care about each other but would never be in a relationship.

We've told each other about people we've had/have crushes on, we advise each other on these situations and we make sure that each other don't settle for anything less than what we deservw

But our friendship isn't some secret attraction that we're holding back. it's a genuine friendship. We make each other laugh, we understand each others thoughts and enjoy each others company

Just like any other friendship regardless of the genders involved

So believe me when I say it fuckign pisses me off when I see stuff like this https://twitter.com/postmodern_mum/status/1289233706318610433?s=20

https://twitter.com/postmodern_mum/status/1289233706318610433?s=20

And you know what, maybe it's understandable for people to look at me and them and think that we couldnt stay friends because of the connection we have. That's the right way to be wrong

BUT SEX

YOURE TELLING ME THAT YOU THINK THE IDEA OF SEX WOULD GET IN THE WAY

It just shows that as a whole we've reached this point where so many people think relationships are solely defined by a sexual desire. If you wanna fuck them, that's all the attraction you need and it's the only attraction you will eve have

And I hate this so much.

No wonder so many relationships don't work out long term if most people are entering them for the sex. That's literally nothing. In terms of important to a relationship it's practically nothing

Emotional, intellectual attraction is infinitely more important

Who are you spending time with in the relationship, them or their body?

I hate so mcuh that it's so normalised to think sex is the sole most key part of any relationship. it's terrible and it's just messing things up

And it makes me people forget to be friends with someone before ever being in a relationship with them. I don't get how it's so normalised that the way you get into relationships now is you see someone you might be into and then go ask them out and see how it goes

I just dotn understand you can start a relationship with someone you don't have some level of connection with prior to the relationship.

But society has normalised the 'hey they kinda good looking lemme ask them out and learn about their personality over time'

Some people say its worse to be friends with them first because you're more likely to be friend zoned but I say "so what?" Either you get into a relationship with them or you have the friendship thag you've had with them all this time. Its win win

And I'm not saying get into a friendship with someone just because you want to be in a relationship with them, that's infinitely worse.

Anyway lemme link this back

Society wants you to believe (oh gosh I sound like one of those #woke #earthisflat people now) that boys and girls cant be friends without romantic and/or sexual attraction.

But this is purely because society wants you to believe that guys and girls only need to interact when they want to be in a relationship. This isn't an intrinsic human belief but we're being convinced that it's the truth because of how much it's treated as true on social media

But to treat girl/guy interactions as purely relational is terrible on so many levels. Both for when actualy getting into relationships and when just wanting to be friends with people

Guy/girl platonic friendships need to be normalised. it's one of the reasons I lvoe cap and black widow in the winter soldier and hate when mcu stans suggest that cap went back in time to her

Anyway yeah this was a hella hella hella long rant. I'm sorry for swearing so much I'm just very very very angry at that tweet and that mentality idk if anyone will even read all of this gihfhggggbbb

Also I should say, i know creepy guys who solely act as your friend to try and be in a relationship with you, exist, but maybe if we normalise platonic friendships, those guys will stop seeing all women as just potential relationships and see them as human beings

So yeh it's a viscous cycle aswell I guess is my final point

Ok

Wallcrawler out

P.s I platonicaly love all of you who read this thread in it's entirety. Especially you mr film nexus sir if you're seeing this

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