This article that raises profoundly important questions for many of us. I& #39;ll use a few tweets to draw what I think is an important distinction between the pursuit of success and something else. https://www.theatlantic.com/family/archive/2020/07/why-success-wont-make-you-happy/614731/">https://www.theatlantic.com/family/ar...

2/ The desire for success defined as being special is a real thing (I& #39;ve suffered from it), and I& #39;m completely on board with Arthur& #39;s analysis. But Aristotle& #39;s insight that humans deeply enjoy the exercise of their realized capabilities points to something different.

3/ You still may be ignoring the quotidian things that enrich satisfactions from family and community, and that& #39;s a problem. But you& #39;re enjoying the activity for itself alone, not because it& #39;s going get clicks or a booking on Meet the Press. You& #39;re really good at something, and

4/ doing that thing is the source of the high--or the flow, in Csikzentmihalyi& #39;s use of that word. It& #39;s not a trivial high. And it can be a plus, not a negative, for your spouse and children. You& #39;re a more complete version of yourself because of it. So ditch the

5/ desire to be special, which yields meager satisfactions when you achieve it, but embrace the pleasures of doing what you& #39;re good at, even if you spend more hours at it than in some sense you "should."