1/ This is what emotional manipulation *really* looks like.

A shaming tactic that tries to foster obedience through an implied morality, a morality that one may not agree with. https://twitter.com/ahsanirfan1985/status/1287595930833661958?s=20

2/ They could have been a lot more honest by just saying that they didn't like what I said.

3/ It's astounding how often this happens in marriages, where one spouse tries to "trick" the other into behaving in a way suitable to them, by appealing to some sort of a standard, instead of simply being honest and saying that "this is what I'd like you to do."

4/ The former is a trick, where, when you do no comply, the other spouse can fall back on the "well, *real men/women* would do this XYZ thing I want you to do."

The latter is where you're giving the other party room to accept your reject the request for compliance.

5/ If you do this, stop it.

If your spouse does it, call them out on it.