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AOC said that her parents didn't raise her to accept abuse from men. A friend said, in response, that she realized when she heard it that her parents DID raise her to accept abuse from men. So did mine. So did an entire culture. And now I can't stop thinking about it.
The women in my family made sure I always knew pretty much any type of harassment/abuse was my fault, for SOME reason, and therefore I had to accept it. But so did pretty much everyone in the world I was in. https://twitter.com/EricaHMSU/status/1287573514380357632
It's true of so many different contexts. Disrupt the social order/expectations, even if they're harmful, and there will be backlash. It's how they teach us. https://twitter.com/Historiann/status/1287843241077874688
We had to be the ones to keep the peace, to smooth things over, to still the rocking boats. Even knowing intellectually this is unreasonable doesn't change how it will feel when we stop. (But we should stop.) https://twitter.com/theMABscribbler/status/1287925356985495554
This is a good point for a lot of the people asking questions about this topic. https://twitter.com/durand_lindsay/status/1287927482205839362
I want to note that people are responding in a variety of ways to say this is especially true of Black women, Asian women, Arab women, Indian women, evangelical white women, etc.--it is true for so many, but I am confident that it is true in ways peculiar to those experiences.
I'm muting notifications on this tweet for now. Be gentle with yourselves. Thanks to everyone for the group education. 
