The small ones are usually bureaucratic. By the time a doctor tells you they should just “yank your uterus out to get it over with”? They’ve started conditioning you for that treatment at the first point of contact. Small is relative & personal, of course. https://twitter.com/magneto2genosha/status/1287401227375054848

But I would start with identifying any feelings of anger or shame or exhaustion at any point in the interaction. Those feelings signal that something has been taken from you. Listen to them.

One example: I went to a doctor for a second visit within a two week span. I had a terrible sinus infection. Anyway, they wanted to weigh me and do height checks again. I felt deeply tired at the thought. That’s the signal.

My response was to ask, “do you think I’ve grown or changed weight in the past six days since I was last here? And will it impact my care today?” The answer was no. They could give me a breathing treatment without this and I insisted that they do so.

And I cannot stress this part enough: it doesn’t have to make sense to anyone but you. Not even your spouse or partner. Period.