“if i someone uses *X* slur against me, i can reclaim it” ......... no

“you’re gateekping slurs!!!!” imagine ur so desperate to experience oppression (without facing the genuine consequences of that oppression), that you want to turn being the target of a specific form misdirected bigotry into an opportunity to use slurs that don’t ACTUALLY target u

and you know what... i know it probably looks like all i do is ~ discourse ~ atm but pretending that i don’t see this bs happening, locking myself into a digital bubble and acting as if i don’t have my own opinions on it all is... killing me. no more!!!!!

*( form of misdirected bigotry )

idk how a bunch of bi people determined to make this about them have, yknow, set out to do that but this tweet *was not about bi people using the lesbophobic slur, dyke*. it was about the ongoing, decades long argument over whether or not non-gay men can/should use the f-slur. https://twitter.com/bitterbleue/status/1287447103908777990

THIS is the tiktok that inspired this thread, so to speak, and part of what also pushed me to make this thread is seeing people talk about reclaiming slurs in a hyper generalised context - i.e race https://vm.tiktok.com/JYDFwXD/ 

tl;dr: if you are not the true target of a slur, and don’t experience the *specific form of oppression that makes the word a slur* you cannot “reclaim” it, bc it’s not even aimed at you. that goes for bi girls using dyke, and non-Black people saying nigg3r. period. https://twitter.com/bitterbleue/status/1287448020745883650