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In my experience, winning and losing are simply two sides of the same attitude coin. Just different ways of looking at the same thing.
btw, not dismissing the obvious here. Of course there are such things as wins and losses in life - I would call them "tangible" wins/losses, but where there is this - there is also "intangible" wins/losses.
So taking this principle and applying it to the original tweet, I think winning and losing is a matter of perspective. What you "loss" could also be a gain if you just looked at it differently. And vice versa.
N it's this kind of thinking that I've been carrying for a while in my adulthood. In the context of conceptual wins/losses, why should I internalize a so-called loss and beat myself up for it, when I clearly learned something from it - therefore I gained a "win" in the process.
Similar too for - say you've been told that you're a loser - why should their perspective of you colour your perspective of yourself? When they don't inhabit your body and they only see with their eyes - rather than try to see it through yours?
I've been told a loser, if not all the time back in the day. I've been told practically any name-calling title from the book of names. (Never had a nickname btw, just name-calling)
Key here is, don't internalize it. It's your life in your hands, and not theirs.
Key here is, don't internalize it. It's your life in your hands, and not theirs.
You'll soon realize that once you listen to your own voice, that other people are merely ignoring theirs and are using you as a soundboard for the insecurities they can't solve on their own.
Don't fall for that trap.
Don't fall for that trap.
Carrying the princple of the win/lose attitude coin, I find it really hard nowadays to feel bad and beat myself up for something I can't control. If I did my best and I still tangibly "lost", I still gained "experience" that I could use for next time.
Zero time to feel bad then
Zero time to feel bad then
This isn't to say that I shouldn't try hard btw - but the power to motivate and influence me should never come from an outside source. I motivate me, I influence me.
I'm not perfect (but gosh I wish I could be better), I still make mistakes.
I'm not perfect (but gosh I wish I could be better), I still make mistakes.
But I carry this principle around me like I do a utility belt, I've found it to be very useful in navigating life. And not letting things get under my skin, when it has no place being there.
