Every since I came out publicly 2 years ago as queer, I’ve dealt with a lot of people saying I’m lying because I was married to a man before.

I want to be clear about a few things (again): my ex was queer.

You can be queer & in a heteronormative relationship.

You can be queer and never come out.

You can be queer and married to someone that identifies as straight.

I didn’t understand my queerness & now that I’m able to get explore that side of me, a lot of stuff makes sense. So many people have tried to tell me how I’m allowed to navigate this, but it’s my life & I’m happier than I’ve been in a decade, & it shows.

If you’re navigating your sexual identity, don’t let anyone shame you for taking your time figuring it out. You don’t owe anyone anything & deserve love regardless. Set boundaries w/ those that don’t respect your journey. It took a long time to get here, & it was worth it