Y’all dunking on Grimes right now is really making me side eye as a trans person.

Grimes explicitly said she wanted to raise her child w/o revealing the gender. This was very important to her. Almost immediately, Musk revealed the sex of the baby against her will. Y’all laughed but it wasn’t funny.

Grimes said the name of her child was based on a plane that she loved b/c it had no weapons or defenses. Musk almost immediately countered by talking about how it’s military. He either tricked her into a name or was publicly mocking how she saw her child’s name.

When Musk mocked pronouns, he wasn’t just being genetically transphobic. He was directly attacking how Grimes has publicly, repeatedly, talked about her gender-neutral parenting priorities.

Generically, not generically. Ugh.

My larger point is: Grimes seems like a person that is conscious of & deeply wrestling w/ gender identity for her child & possibly herself. This is a big thing for her. And her partner repeatedly dragged her for it during her pregnancy & now her recovery. That’s not funny.

We know Musk abused his first wife. And now we see public, repeated proof that he’s abusing his partner largely based on her support of trans issues & y’all keep laughing.

How am I supposed to see this as a trans person other than y’all think transphobic abuse is funny? Stop dismissing what’s happening as “Grimes drew the line at misgendering lol.” No, Grimes is being harmed for being trans-supportive, & that is NOT laughable.

Whatever I think of Grimes personally (& it isn’t good) I have nothing but support for someone that is wrestling w/ what gender identity means & trying to bring up her child in a way less harmful to marginalized genders. We should be supporting that, not mocking it.

If any other celebrity was publicly humiliated by her own partner for being a trans-supportive parent, we’d call that out. But somehow it’s ok if the victim is Grimes? Yeah. I’m side eyeing hard here.

Grimes has a lot to answer for but finally standing up when her partner attacks her one too many times is not surprising to me as a survivor myself. There’s a pattern here.

And btw I made this mistake, too! I laughed along. It was only when I stepped back & looked at each event as moments in a pattern that I went

Heyo this thread is taking off & my anxiety is spoilt so I’m going to go watch some French Canadian clowns for a while & ignore this

If your response to this thread is to climb into an abuse survivor’s DMs & say they deserve abuse for saying abuse is bad, maybe reconsider your life choices, since you clearly suck as a human being.

Y’all I am so sorry about this but I misgendered Grimes, apologies for using incorrect pronouns https://twitter.com/iemonayd/status/1287230699527905281?s=21 https://twitter.com/iemonayd/status/1287230699527905281