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From Mark Manson Website

Recognize that you are not responsible for your partner’s happiness nor are they responsible for yours. That you do not have a right to demand certain actions from them nor do they have a right to demand certain actions from you.

That means that they are responsible for their own struggles just as you are responsible for yours.

That means that you realize often the most loving and compassionate thing you can do for a loved one is allow them to deal with their struggles themselves.

The point of a relationship is not for you to have all of your life’s problems fixed by your partner, nor is it for you to fix all of your partner’s life problems.

It is to have two individuals unconditionally support each other as they deal with their own problems together.

A wise friend of mine told me the most important lesson he learned was that “the quickest way to kill a relationship is to take each other for granted.”

A relationship is not an obligation. It is a choice. Made every day. It is a choice that recognizes the short-term costs are worth the long-term benefits. It is a choice to appreciate what brought you two together in the first place. And then to let that keep you there.