this is a decent thread, however, as someone who doesn't text frequently or is often quiet, we still uh. at least need to tell folks What's up sometimes bc that's what's Fair to a friendship. we can't let folks sit and expect them to be ok w it either, that's not cool at all https://twitter.com/jasidic/status/1286116041781850113

yes folks like me need space, or are more active on websites then anything else. honestly? i spend less energy typing into the void then 1-1 convos. however, if i leave folks hanging with no explanation, is that fair to them bc it's comfortable to me?

the answer: no, it's not. i've lost people this way, expecting people to just Know that i'll come back. shit don't work that way, you need to be upfront and let new and old friends know that you pop in and out of responding. you don't have to give your full life story-

-but a hey! i have trouble doing X, i'm still here tho! is good enough for most folk. additionally, it's also not a free pass for folks like me to not be responsive to avoid a social mishap i've created and claim it self care. i've done it, ive seen it done, it's shitty.

i worry abt these posts bringing back old tumblr "self care" routines that get ambiguously applied to every situation that allowed for a lot of "i'm only taking care of Me" mentalities when, socially, it's more complicated then that.

but that's just my 2 cents on it