A thread on a topic that happens too frequently, and it may read a tad harsh, but sometimes a jolt is needed to remind yourself what you don’t deserve.

The topic: The foolery of furthering a relationship with people who have shown their hatred of you, repeatedly.

You are not foolish for falling in love.

Sometimes those feelings wash over you even when you don’t know any better.

You are not foolish for wanting things to desperately work out with who you love.

It’s normal to yearn for what you want.

What makes you foolish is not your emotions, or what you desire from a person, it is the lies that you tell yourself.

It’s the story you lean on to justify why you are still there.

The one where you tell yourself you are too weak to make the decision you know you must.

What makes you foolish is constantly telling yourself that it is harder to choose yourself, than to stay in an obviously, disrespectful and toxic relationship.

Mentally putting difficulty on leaving, helps you remain lying to yourself, so you can extend your addiction.

Sometimes the person you are with, shows you early enough that they don’t care about you.

And you know they don’t because you told a friend about it, you told your sister, everyone around you is aware that you are being mistreated & disrespected.
You are now a pitiable figure.

You are constantly sharing the wrongs, which is a good thing if you intended to do something about it...But that’s not why you are, you are sharing because it is your addiction, and talking about it makes you feel like you are doing something about it, even though you are not.

You are not ready to really leave this person, you want to hear someone be on your side.
You want your loved ones as angry as you are, which helps reinforce your angst, sad eyed you hope your visceral pain will make this person pay attention to you more and care about you.

You are wasting your time, and all you are doing by remaining in places where you can’t even breathe comfortably out of fear of being the target of further mistreatment, is learning how to breathe through mistreatment.

And that is not something you should ever learn.

The person you are stretching yourself thin for, is not deserving of anything but your hatred.

This is not no forgiveness, let it go bullshit.

For treating you so poorly for loving them so much, they are only deserving of your disdain.

This person doesn’t deserve an iota of the damage you are internalizing. The months/years ahead of working to get yourself back, of learning to trust and forgive yourself.

All that is much more difficult to attain, than leaving a person who has shown they don’t deserve you.

Some people just don’t deserve a chance to love you better.

Even if the hallowed change you hope for arrives, which rarely happens, they deserve to live with the regret of their actions.

You deserve to be loved by a person who never had to hurt you repeatedly to learn how to.

If this thread applies to you, I’m being direct about it because you don’t need anymore excuses to lean on indefinitely.

It will only be hard at first.

Removing this negative person from your life, will be transformative for you.

You are stronger than you think you are.

Remember, the only person to blame for how you are being treated is the person who is treating you poorly.
You did absolutely nothing to deserve a person you care about, disrespecting how much you care about them.

And once you are aware of this truth, please protect yourself.

Love never has to make a fool out of you, nor does it need you to wait through several chances for things to get better.

Please don’t wait anymore.

Start to build strength around preserving yourself, that’s a harder but more rewarding battle that you will never regret.