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hi ! i don’t plan on using this account anymore after incidents, and this is not an expose thread of sorts, and i will not be going unpriv for this.
this is regarding vri (@/pjmnaruto) and my relationship with them. i have mentioned on this account previously that if you are mutuals w them, it is a sb them or sb me situation.
the reason for this is that they have outed me in school while we were dating and recently, an ex-mutual tried to question the validity of this.
upon being asked about this, vri has always mentioned that i broke up w them because i’m straight and identify as demisexual, completely brushing over the fact that they outed me in school and also now denying the fact that they outed me which they did not once but multiple times
note: while i opened up to them i accused them of invalidating demisexuality at the time, which on my part came from a place of confusion and lack of research. i do not identify as demisexual, and i don’t have a particular label for myself, i just know that i’m not straight.
i do not restrict myself to one gender. and I made that clear to them.
here are a few instances where they outed me:
1) their sister talked about our relationship to all her friends at school. she would call me and make me stand there while she told her friends about how i was dating her little sibling and it didn't happen once, it kept on happening and i voiced it irl too. i was UNCOMFORTABLE
why would i give someone permission to out me when i wasn't out and how would i give someone permission who didn't even ask for my permission in the first place???
2) they had told their entire class about our relationship. i get it they are out and proud and that's really admirable but im not. i wasn't even asked for permission before they told everyone about our relationship.
i was not aware how many of their friends even knew about us, and after a while i found out their whole class knew, and it spread to others. they always brushed it off as ‘it’s okay !! they’re nice they’re not assholes !!
here’s my dm to them about their very telling post they posted on their main abt our first date and they didn't even "think about it"
their classmates and followers started sending me follow requests and i remember being so anxious and crying to my bestfriends. and it's not like i hadn't voiced my problems, i had but it was always brushed off as "they are nice people they won't say anything"
3) one of their classmates put me on the spot and asked me about my rs with vri. i sat there unable to form an answer and with truck load of anxiety because someone i don't trust came to me and asked me about my relationship???? that means they knew about my sexuality.
i told them about this incident not once but twice. they managed to completely forget the first time i told them about this and the second time this was their response
4) i was the most scared of the popular gang in our grade finding out and i had told vri this on dms too. and that's exactly what happened. since they had told their whole class, a guy from their class was friends with someone from my grade and he told the popular squad
i will never forget that day when i was having a relatively good day and during our break period this guy from the popular group came up to me with someone else and asked me "are you dating vri? like y'all had a scene right" (this was after we broke up) i was the hot topic.
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i had a full panic attack in the school washroom because i was so so scared. i literally had to come out to that dude and beg him to not tell anyone. i sat and cried back stage in the auditorium. the whole group knew and i was so scared that my parents would find out
i had a full panic attack in the school washroom because i was so so scared. i literally had to come out to that dude and beg him to not tell anyone. i sat and cried back stage in the auditorium. the whole group knew and i was so scared that my parents would find out
this all happened irl and i don't have proof of it but i do have tweets from my private account back then where i tweeted about being scared to go to school.
they constantly refuse to take responsibility for this.
please understand that while i said multiple times to them ‘it’s okay’, it definitely is Not. i was vulnerable at the time and it is evident that i was very uncomfortable with how they handled the situation.
please understand that while i said multiple times to them ‘it’s okay’, it definitely is Not. i was vulnerable at the time and it is evident that i was very uncomfortable with how they handled the situation.
an ex-mutual was sceptical and thought i was lying about it, but this was a terrifying and traumatic situation that still triggers me. i would never lie about it. i hate needing to prove this, but it was getting too far.
all this being said i am in no way trying to ruin their image for you all or exposing them. all of you are entitled to your opinion. i just wanted to explain my side and close this account.
