I find it amusing how people expect you to remain in the same situation you were in when they knew you years ago. Much more when they are unhappy about being wrong.

I has put things into perspective for me. Some friendships and relationships are only sustained if they see you as helpless, dependent or kind of a loser. When that begins to change, it throws everything off balance.

And suddenly they start projecting their insecurities on you. If you’re unaware, it might start to feel like you’re the one in the wrong meanwhile you’re the only one growing.

A lot of people don’t like to admit that the progress, no matter how little, their friends, family or partners make takes some time to adjust to and some will rather you don’t progress at all “Why can’t you just remain as you were?”

It why you see some friendships you’re holding on to keeps getting more frail. They don’t know how to be with you without the struggle that made them like you, that made them feel a little sorry for you, that made them feel they were better than you.

Growth is inevitable. You can choose to diminish yours but please don’t stifle others.