I think a lot of enby lesbians just need to be told that being a woman who loves women is okay. Most of these people probably aren't enbys who are choosing to be lesbians but rather lesbians choosing to not be a women to get away from all the stigma and stereotypes
one thing I've noticed is that a lot of younger lesbians like myself have gone through phases thinking they were ftm, genderfluid, etc as a way to justify them being attracted to women. and this leads into why you can't be a lesbian if you're nonbinary.
a major struggle of lesbians both old and new is being seen as a woman still despite being attracted to women. older lesbians were trying to be seen as woman by society while newer lesbians are more so struggling being seen as a woman by themselves
also before someone says it this includes transwomen since they are women

also im not saying that this experience is universal its just pretty common in the community