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Remember that Twitter thread that was all, "My mom taught me something very important and it& #39;s that I can always leave if I want to?"
I& #39;m thinking about that b/c in it, there& #39;s a tweet that says her mom asked, "What do you need so you can leave?"
I& #39;m thinking about that b/c in it, there& #39;s a tweet that says her mom asked, "What do you need so you can leave?"
And I& #39;m just thinking of all the people who were in abusive situations (me) who had parents and family who never said, "What do you need so you can leave?"
I& #39;m thinking of the millions, probably billions of people, who never have anyone ask, "What do you need so you can leave?"
I& #39;m thinking of the millions, probably billions of people, who never have anyone ask, "What do you need so you can leave?"
I& #39;m thinking of how, socially, it& #39;s so expected that anyone who wants to leave will just do it, even if they have *nothing* they need so they can leave. And this makes people say, "Well, she stays with him!" so that when abuse continues, it& #39;s her fault, not her abuser& #39;s.
Instead of asking, "What do you need so you can leave?" people say, "I& #39;m so sorry that& #39;s happening to you," "I don& #39;t want what happened to you to happen to me," "It embarrasses him when you point it out," and God forbid anyone would look upon abusive behavior as abusive.
I wonder how different things would& #39;ve turned out for me and my kids if anyone had asked, "What do you need so you can leave?" instead of told me to "let it go," that I was "not a victim as defined by the law," that I needed to "stop with the drama" when I didn& #39;t start it.
"What do you need so you can leave?" ... "And stay gone? And heal up? And take good care of yourself? And set yourself up for a happy, healthy life with your children?"
"What do you need?"
Such a simple way to show support but so rare to get in these situations.
"What do you need?"
Such a simple way to show support but so rare to get in these situations.
