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When someone asks you “hey, could you not speak to me that way? It’s hurtful”, the response cannot be “LMAO ok ill just never talk to you about anything ever again.” Or similar.
That’s gaslighting. It’s manipulative and it’s abusive when used frequently.
That’s gaslighting. It’s manipulative and it’s abusive when used frequently.
Cold shouldering is abusive.
Conditioning your friends to over exert themselves to be your life line is abusive.
Controlling their responses to what you do and say is manipulation and it’s abusive.
Conditioning your friends to over exert themselves to be your life line is abusive.
Controlling their responses to what you do and say is manipulation and it’s abusive.
The post I made about your friends not being your therapists was FILLED with so many toxic gaslighting responses.
ON TOP OF, the amount of people who have taken up the mantle of savior and lifeline for these people in their lives.
It’s intensely troubling
ON TOP OF, the amount of people who have taken up the mantle of savior and lifeline for these people in their lives.
It’s intensely troubling
The post wasn’t about a once in a while, friend calls u at 2 am and you talk til 6am, type of scenario.
The post is about FREQUENT AND EXCESSIVE need for your time at any convenience, at all hours, under threat of selfh*arm, su*icide or an abrupt end to the relationship.
The post is about FREQUENT AND EXCESSIVE need for your time at any convenience, at all hours, under threat of selfh*arm, su*icide or an abrupt end to the relationship.
So many people lashed out at me bc they feel as tho I was targeting those with mental illness or disability. I am and always have been on the side of support of mental illness and bisability.
HOWEVER, abusers are found in all groups and in all types of people.
HOWEVER, abusers are found in all groups and in all types of people.
THIS IS TO SAY:
Disability and mental illness are not the cause of abuse. And abuse and mental illness are two seperate issues and should be handled as such.
But we have to have a convo about how some people w disabilities or mental illness use it as a means to control others
Disability and mental illness are not the cause of abuse. And abuse and mental illness are two seperate issues and should be handled as such.
But we have to have a convo about how some people w disabilities or mental illness use it as a means to control others
I and so many others have had painful and abusive relationships that resulted in a long term negative anxiety due to people who used their mental illnesses against us and to force us to be their constant companion whenever beckoned. And OFC I told them that it wasn’t right.
That didnt mean that they stopped. It means that tactics needed to change.
It went from “I’m you’re never there when I need you” to “you’re right, I rely on you too much. I’m sorry I have depression, I should just be by myself”
The abuse I’ve behavior still remains.
It went from “I’m you’re never there when I need you” to “you’re right, I rely on you too much. I’m sorry I have depression, I should just be by myself”
The abuse I’ve behavior still remains.
You cannot continue a healthy relationship w someone who weaponizes their disabilities and mental illness against you. Certainly not if they refuse to listen to you or your needs and it’s negatively impacting you on a daytoday basis.
THIS is when the situation is over your head.
THIS is when the situation is over your head.
.... if this is yet another post that does numbers, I’m gonna scream
