I've been trying to wrap my head around arranged marriages since I'm apparently heading for one (someday. Soon? Idk, idc) and these tweets all just remind me how toxic this process really is

I played it off as cool later, but this rejection hurt. They wanted a "beautiful bride" and I scoffed and wanted nothing to do with at first glance, his bio data made an impression and for the first time I actually caught myself praying for the best. https://twitter.com/cookies_98_/status/1271640861873369088?s=19

I am not perfect. But I've accepted my flaws and made it a part of me. My smile, my acne, my weight. It's what makes me...me. and I'm okay with that. And when other people don't see it that way, it kills me inside. Massive blows to my self confidence.

After a couple rejections came in, my mother had the actual nerve to say maybe my pictures aren't pretty enough and we need to get some good shots. The pictures I selected of myself were 3 full body pictures where *I* think I look my absolute best at.

And for my own mother to question that, killed me. I never asked for a guy's picture. I previously approved of some bio datas just by reading them. Not by looking at their damn pictures. Why is this given such importance anyway? I don't expect a Channing Tatum doppelgänger

I ranted about it to a couple of my friends and I brushed it under the rug later on, coz that's ehehe what I do. But seeing tweets on toxic arranged marriage processes, I just have to bring this up.

It's not okay. I'm not just a face. I'm much more than just a face, I am kind, loving, compassionate, friendly... And I look for the same qualities in a man. I don't search for faces. I hunt for qualities.

So idk what the hell this thread is going to do. I've never been this open in my entire life and writing this is really painful. But I hope I heal. I hope people who went through the same shit heal too. I hope I find someone who makes this fucking toxic process, worth it.