Did you know that financial dependence is a financial disorder? This affects a wide range of people, from trust fund babies to stay-at-home moms, to women who married rich and adults who live off of their parents or the opposite sex.

I have noticed a pattern in women,

even though the pattern comes in different shapes and sizes, the needs are the same: The search for a financial saviour.

Many women have decided that they will make men their financial fairy godfather, waving their wand and immediately getting paid for it.

Now, the pandemic is here, people are hoarding their cash or investing massively, you find out, your fairy godfather’s pocket is not bottomless after all, now what do you do with yourself?

Many people will brag about what they own when in fact, they are just consumers,

never creators of wealth. If you do not own money or investments, what you own is perishable; the bags and jewelries can be stolen, the shoes will depreciate and your little self worth you pretended to have will go with them.

We come online and criticise the begging culture,

meanwhile, many women are all over the world, waiting patiently for a man to come to save them from their financial woes.

I have seen in the DANG comment section where women have said “being single is worse when you’re broke,”

as though being broke and in a relationship will automatically increase your net-worth. If you were focused on finding ways to legitimately make money, you would seldom remember that you’re single. And you’ll find, that men fall over themselves when a woman is successful.

Let’s talk about marrying rich: There is not one problem with this. There will be problems though, when you don’t use the opportunity you have to save, invest and create your own wealth. If you’re able to do this, watch yourself feel the power, freedom and contentment it brings.

Dear stay at home mums, it is no longer uncommon for people to make money from home. I know taking care of the kids is a full time, exhausting job but have you tried contributing to the family yourself? Children are blessings but they aren’t your retirement funds,

you don’t want to be the mother who waits around for salaries from kids that are probably still trying to figure out their finances.

While babies sleeps or the kids are at school,you can build your business from home! Start by thinking about what you know how to do effortlessly,

create a platform for it, then teach it- from home. What I’m trying to say is, start by thinking, something will come to you. If you believe in yourself and your abilities, anything is possible!

Dear woman,
One of the Hardest Part about deciding to make your own money is that you will be miserable for a while and ask yourself why you shouldn’t fall back to your old pattern of waiting for a fairy godfather to save you because now, you have to work hard/smart AND READ.

But as you go on, determined, falling and getting back up, you’ll find that even the journey brings you satisfaction and a feeling of self-worth.

Women who are financially dependent and are in abusive relationships often feel it’s impossible to leave,

many domestic violence victims return to their abusers because of financial dependency.

Financial dependency is so toxic that it stifles your creativity,motivation and drive to succeed.

There’s a reason rich people get richer: The more successful they get,the more their brains,

minds and creativity sharpens.

If you don’t work your mind, it will never churn out creative ideas for you.

I vote that ALL women should have her own money, to do what she wants AND to have a safety net so she can be free and empowered to make her own decisions.

“Don’t expect anyone else to support you. Maybe you have a trust fund, maybe you have a wealthy spouse, but you never know when either one might run out.” – Baz Luhrmann

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