Also, just going to pop this back here. I’m very pleased to have a bunch of new friends, and I know it was off the back of a thirst tweet, but if I don’t know you, you could just say hello on the timeline and not in my messages. I’m much more likely to engage that way. https://twitter.com/ShamblesAndFuss/status/1278260894003351552

Circling back to this to tell men once again: does whatever you’re messaging me need to be a DM? Even if you’re being nice? Could it not just go on the timeline? Can you think about what it implies to me when your Perfectly Innocent conversation starter happens in private?

I DM lots of different people about lots of different things, but they are people I have established some kind of rapport with over time; OR it’s something private/important, and therefore a DM. An ‘innocuous’ DM from a guy I don’t know just makes me not engage. Why would I?

Once more for the fellas at the back, because apparently me posting this every couple of days is having no impact.

WHY ARE YOU DM’ING ME THINGS THAT YOU COULD PERFECTLY WELL SAY ON THE TL? ALL YOU’RE DOING IS MAKING ME THINK YOU’RE A CREEP. You might not be! But DM slides are!

Better yet: if you’re gonna DM me - an adult who has survived 35 years in this world without your unsolicited opinion - some paternalistic-ass bullshit about my ‘safety’, maybe...just...don’t? Would you EVER send that message to a man you don’t know? No? Then don’t send it to me