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I always urge women to get in shape, especially if they want better options in men.
We can’t see your great personality. That’s not our initial attraction.
Sure, in terms of retention, we value that but we have to first be sexually attracted to you.
We can’t see your great personality. That’s not our initial attraction.
Sure, in terms of retention, we value that but we have to first be sexually attracted to you.
Apparently this tweet is taking off. Interesting. Now, while I have your attention I’ll add a few more things for clarity and understanding:
(1) Before you think to tweet anything sideways or disrespectful toward me, know that I will NOT be engaging you. I treat people on here like I do in real life: With respect and decency. So don’t think you’re going to talk spicy shit and be acknowledged. You will get blocked.
(2) Any personal attacks on my appearance, character, sexuality, the number of women I allegedly don’t and/or, the pussy I allegedly don’t get, or anything superficial and outside the bounds of the topic of the original tweet are all elementary.
I am not elementary.
I am not elementary.
(3) I stand by what I said/tweeted because it is typically true. I will not apologize nor will I back down from it.
If you feel some type of way about it, ask yourself why.
If you come up with a logical, respectful response then, sure, we can have an open dialogue.
If you feel some type of way about it, ask yourself why.
If you come up with a logical, respectful response then, sure, we can have an open dialogue.
(4) Now that all that’s all the way, let’s break down a few things:
FACT 1: Many women struggle with finding and attracting good men.
As a matter of fact, I could say the same about men. But I’m not talking about men.
FACT 1: Many women struggle with finding and attracting good men.
As a matter of fact, I could say the same about men. But I’m not talking about men.
(5) FACT 2: Physical attraction plays an important role in holistic attraction for both men and women, but it’s particularly more important for men.
I did not say that it is the only or most important thing. However, men are typically more visual creatures for many of reasons.
I did not say that it is the only or most important thing. However, men are typically more visual creatures for many of reasons.
(6) FACT 3: Men and women alike are not attracted to individuals based SOLEY on INTANGIBLE qualities such as personality, charm, character, values, emotional/mental maturity, loyalty, etc.
Those qualities are great and commendable but alone, they don’t get you as far.
Those qualities are great and commendable but alone, they don’t get you as far.
(7) Just because you’re a “good” woman and you have all those intangible traits and more, doesn’t mean you’re entitled to a “good” man.
You cannot neglect other important factors. Namely, physical attraction.
You cannot neglect other important factors. Namely, physical attraction.
(7.5) This is essentially the same issue of entitlement that we talk about “nice guys” have.
They think that just because they’re nice that women should be breaking their necks to be with them.
That’s not reality.
They think that just because they’re nice that women should be breaking their necks to be with them.
That’s not reality.
Yes, you need some good/nice intangible traits but it’s also needs to be BALANCED.
If she isn’t physically attracted to you, move the fuck on. Don’t try to guilt or shame her into liking you just because you’re a “nice guy.”
If she isn’t physically attracted to you, move the fuck on. Don’t try to guilt or shame her into liking you just because you’re a “nice guy.”
Nice or good is isn’t enough.
If you ain’t got any style, grit, ambition, vision, backbone, leadership, financial stability, etc she ain’t fucking with you.
If you ain’t got any style, grit, ambition, vision, backbone, leadership, financial stability, etc she ain’t fucking with you.
(8) Your struggles with men/women in terms of having viable options comes down to one or two things:
A - You are the problem...
Or
B - You’re not in an environment where you can be seen by more viable options. You need to put yourself where you can choose and be chosen.
A - You are the problem...
Or
B - You’re not in an environment where you can be seen by more viable options. You need to put yourself where you can choose and be chosen.
(9) My opinion, most people’s issue derives from A for a number of reasons.
People have this “accept me as I am, flaws and all...” attitude without wanting to actually change, compromise, or do better.
They feel like they don’t have to be better, yet complain about men/women.
People have this “accept me as I am, flaws and all...” attitude without wanting to actually change, compromise, or do better.
They feel like they don’t have to be better, yet complain about men/women.
(10) These people want the “ideal” partner but don’t and aren’t willing to tap into what their said “ideal” partner would actually be attracted to and interested in.
This is truth. This is one of the many reasons why folks lament how hard dating is.
This is truth. This is one of the many reasons why folks lament how hard dating is.
(11) Staying on point, as it relates to MANY women, one of the main reasons I encourage them to get into shape is due to the fact that men are largely more visual than women.
Any man who says otherwise is a liar and/or disillusioned.
But we gotta be honest about these things.
Any man who says otherwise is a liar and/or disillusioned.
But we gotta be honest about these things.
(12) It’s not that they lack the intangibles that would RETAIN a partner long-term. They haven’t maximized certain physical qualities that typically ATTRACT (more/most) men.
But retention and attraction are different things.
But retention and attraction are different things.
(13) FACT 4: You literally cannot see someone’s personality. It’s intangible.
Sure, over time you can understand it but when you see someone for the first time, you don’t know what type of personality they have.
Again, we gotta be honest.
Sure, over time you can understand it but when you see someone for the first time, you don’t know what type of personality they have.
Again, we gotta be honest.
(14) Your first resonate when seeing someone isn’t “Oh, what a sexy personality he/she has...I wanna get at them!”
That’s not the case because we all are visually creatures to some extent.
Your INITIAL attraction, as I stated in the original tweet, is physical.
That’s not the case because we all are visually creatures to some extent.
Your INITIAL attraction, as I stated in the original tweet, is physical.
(15) For those who lack reading comprehension skills (I know many of you do by the way you’ve reacted to the original tweet) let me break this down for you since it’s lost upon you.
(16) I explicitly stated that “I always urge women to get get in shape...ESPECIALLY...”
The word “especially” is a modifier that is used to single out a thing above others.
That means that I am and did not say “women need to get in shape for men...”
The word “especially” is a modifier that is used to single out a thing above others.
That means that I am and did not say “women need to get in shape for men...”
(17) There are a plethora of reasons why men and women should get in shape.
I chose to single out one in this case because PHYSICAL ATTRACTION is an important factor in HOLISTIC ATTRACTION, particularly with men.
I chose to single out one in this case because PHYSICAL ATTRACTION is an important factor in HOLISTIC ATTRACTION, particularly with men.
(18) FACT 5: I did not stipulate or define what “in shape” means because it is circumstantial (to a degree).
One may need to put on some weight, one may need to lose some weight, one may need to tone up, one may need to improve endurance, etc.
I simply said get in shape.
One may need to put on some weight, one may need to lose some weight, one may need to tone up, one may need to improve endurance, etc.
I simply said get in shape.
(19) The point is that IF you are a woman and are having trouble finding and attracting viable options in men and you KNOW that you have all the intangibles your ideal man would want, and the issue isn’t your environment then start by improving your physique and see what happens.
(20) If you don’t like the things I’ve said then you will have a hard time dealing with reality.
If you don’t have a problem with me using this same energy and principle with men and being financially stable/healthy (which I do) then this shouldn’t bother you as well.
If you don’t have a problem with me using this same energy and principle with men and being financially stable/healthy (which I do) then this shouldn’t bother you as well.
(21) Women value financial stability/health more in men and affects their attraction to men.
(22) Therefore, if and just as I’ve said before, in the past if a man is having issues with finding viable options in women...and it’s not his environment he likely needs to get into better financial shape.
(23) Why?
Because men and women value the same things just on different levels of ranked importantance.
All other things being equal: No woman is going to stick around in extended financial turmoil. It’s going to stress her out.
Because men and women value the same things just on different levels of ranked importantance.
All other things being equal: No woman is going to stick around in extended financial turmoil. It’s going to stress her out.
(24) All other things being equal: No man is going to stick around with a continued sexless relationship where he’s not physically attracted to the woman.
(25) In a nut shell, for men and women alike:
If you’re having issues attracting viable options, you need to ask yourself whether or not you’re tapping into the qualities and things your ideal partner would like/want.
A lot of times we want people who have no reason to want us.
If you’re having issues attracting viable options, you need to ask yourself whether or not you’re tapping into the qualities and things your ideal partner would like/want.
A lot of times we want people who have no reason to want us.
(26) This stems from men and women not understanding the basic things the opposite sex wants.
It’s easy to deflect and say “Niggas/Bitches ain’t shit” when in reality, the issue is us.
It’s easy to deflect and say “Niggas/Bitches ain’t shit” when in reality, the issue is us.
(27) Thank you for coming to my thread. If you don’t have anything respectful to add to this dialogue, I will not engage. If you do, sure, we can chat.
Talk spicy, remember: You ain’t fucking me or tending to my responsibilities so your opinion is infinitesimally insignificant.
Talk spicy, remember: You ain’t fucking me or tending to my responsibilities so your opinion is infinitesimally insignificant.
