I don’t know that I’ll ever be ready to *fully* talk about my dating life on the internet BUT as someone who was last single at 23 aka 2006 aka no social media aka very basic smart phones aka before the pandemic changed everything, I have....so many observations.

Almost a full year as a single/divorcé...my biggest modern dating observation: we have so many ways to communicate but they’ve made folks WORSE at expressing themselves. It’s so easy to hide behind a like, emoji, meme, GIF or the dreaded iMessage reactions. What are you saying?!

This is a general life skill, but “be interested not interesting” is a great to keep in mind when getting to know someone romantically or platonicly. Sadly, most people (men) are bad at this. Too many dates where person talks about themselves the ENTIRE TIME & never asks anything

“yes, and” is an improv technique but also a really good practice for keeping conversation going. Again, too many people (men) are bad at this. Some are contrarian bc they think it makes them interesting or they learned from a “pick up artist” others don’t know how to build off

For example: In improv if I say “the sky is blue” responding with “no it’s not it’s green” kills the scene. Instead “yes, and there a giant bird headed right towards us RUN!” It works really well for dates! “I love this resultant”...”yes, and they have patio!”

Of course the pandemic has thrown a wrench in casual dating (not that I’m complaining) but it’ll be interesting to see how/if folks adapt. I’m sure plenty will be just as wreckless & bad at communicating as they were B.P. (before pandemic) but hopefully more us will evolve

Ok. I originally didn’t intend for this to become a thread in dating but I’m gonna end here. my thoughts/learnings are starting to venture into the “telling too much of my business” territory, so I’ll quit while I’m ahead

Thanks for letting me vent!