Having some gender anxiety today so I'm tweeting through it. (Also this isn't meant as a subtweet, but a reminder.)

I appreciate being included in "women in sports to follow" lists! I do! But as I am not a woman, that appreciation is quickly overshadowed by panic and self-doubt.

Is having a nonbinary pronoun in my bio not enough? Do I need to come out every day, or to everyone individually, to make sure I'm gendered correctly? Or will cis people always just see nonbinary people as "women" or "men" depending on how we look (or if we use a binary pronoun)?

There is no one-size-fits-all approach to gender. Gender is complicated and messy. But cis people — cis "allies" especially — must help ease that burden by checking their assumptions and ensuring that their desire to get it right outweighs those assumptions.

I do want to reiterate that I'm appreciative of any recognition I get for my work! But when it arrives through the lens of misgendering, I'm not at a place where I can shake that off, hence this thread.

Not asking to be excluded — but included at the proper time would be great.