INHLAMBULUKO | Change'tsha indlela and make peace

Romans 12:18 - "If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone."

[A Smallanyana Thread]

Never ending family wars and sibling rivalries never benefit anyone. Friends that once were closer than blood and lovers that swore to give themselves wholeheartedly to each other - are now sworn enemies. Be careful of a grudge and the tears of those you hurt.

A grudge is energy that can turn to "spirit", ngesiZulu we would call it "isilwane" because of how it bites, mauls, ravages, destroys everything that is good and is of light to you - & at times literally chokes the life out of you ebsuku (sometimes it's not just sleep paralysis)

Some people can't sleep at night, complaining that something creeps up on them and sends them to a paralysis AND even speaks Note: I'm ONLY addressing a grudge and the energy transformation into spirit NOT any other legit causes of "sleep paralysis/ nag meri/ sehatelle"

When families fight, curses are thrown around like a ball. When friends fight some go to the extent of trying to cause blockages kwelikamoya. When couples split, words hold people hostage & actions knock down all they've been trying to build. There's always casualties in war.

Guaranteed, there's people who religiously go to church, are upstanding citizens, are making an effort daily to try better their lives - BUT there is that stronghold over them either from what they did to others previously or what their parent/ elders did to others before

In the same way we are fighting Covid-19 & it's an invisible enemy, we are also fighting invisible wars daily. Pride and arrogance keeps generations locked up. Ngenxa yokuthi abantu abadala refuse ukuthelelana amanzi Who suffers? Who is left to fix their sins? Kwaze kwanzima

Bomakhelwane, a grudge is dangerous Your whole life can get stuck just because you refuse to apologise. Awkwazi ukuthi Askies, Ngyaxolisa, Ndicela Uxolo, I Was Wrong, I Hurt You - and then iLife ikunyise Nyi Human pride is a trap. Izinyembezi zabantu aziweli phansi

Solutions :

For Families: The elders of the family need to resolve among themselves that the family needs to talk about and squash all "beefs". This is not an "over-the-phone"/ conference call meeting - they need to meet and talk openly - and ya, try not to kill each other

No one can come to the table with an ego, pride, and arrogance. They need to allow each other to be called out. They need to be humble towards each other - kumele bathobelane In a rage, a lot of our elders have cooked up lies against each other & those lies stuck in the family

Kuthelelwana amanzi and elders apologise to each other without any one of them waving their hand at the other and assuming they have won over them. That moment is very powerful, for the entire lineage, because in the spirit all bondages are broken at that exact time.

For Best Friends and Lovers:

I firmly believe that there's friendships that are brought together by Izithunywa zenu. The same applies for love relationships. So masenixabana, awxabani with the individual, but you're also starting beef with Izithunywa the person walks with

Fixing friendships and relationships - not necessarily for the purpose of ya'll rekindling the friendship/ relationship but for the sake of calling a truce - can be awkward when done face to face. You can have this conversation over the phone

The same rules would apply, where you would have to leave your ego at the door and enter the room vulnerable. Ya'll would have to openly talk about what happened, ngokweqiniso, and apologise ngokweqiniso. The power of forgiveness is unmatched makhelwane It really breaks chains

Normalise apologising when you have done wrong. You are doing yourself a disservice when you willingly know you've done wrong and decide to never admit your faults. It doesn't make you weak, it actually gives you integrity and respect. Awulwi nomuntu oy-One, trust me

Philani Bomakhelwane Kube Kuhle KuKhanye

NI XOLELANE

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