okay so i'm probably just shouting into the void here, but i have a LOT of thoughts on stan twitter relationships and why a lot of them fall apart (and also why ur first r/s probably shouldn't be an online one):

there are lots of ppl on stan twt who want a partner, but they don't want the actual commitment and work that comes w being in a relationship. they want someone's name in their bio/location and someone to flirt w on the tl - which is 100% valid and okay btw!! +

but then you'll see ppl talking abt how much they "love " someone they've been talking to for 2-4 weeks. 2-4 weeks isn't nough time for a close friendship to develop, let alone a romantic relationship. yeah there can be instant connections, which is really nice, but +

most of these cases aren't like that. ik this bc i've been in online r/s' like that; ones born out of 2-3 weeks of talking and flirting. none of them lasted longer than a month because i didn't take the time to develop a close friendship w those partners. i just wanted a gf. +

that mindset is really unhealthy!! being in a relationship is really nice and can make you v happy, and having a partner to be cute w online is fun. but you should never jump into a r/s without being friends for a long time first - you could end up hurting each other if you do. +

there's also the toxic side of twt relationships. the arguments on the tl, the vagueing on priv/main. you both go to your respective gcs for advice and your friends start vagueing your partner too, which causes another fight. ppl u don't know making ur r/s into their business. +

now onto why it might not be the best idea for your first r/s to be online. first of all, a lot of us here are lgbt and ik it can be hard to find other lgbt ppl your age who are interested in the same things you are. if you genuinely can't help it, i 100% understand!! +

but speaking for myself and many others whose first long-term relationships were online: it's not always the best idea, ESPECIALLY if it's long-distance. ldrs aren't *romantic*, they suck ass sometimes and if you're under 18 it's a lot harder to fly across an ocean to see +

your partner. that level of commitment makes online relationships even more difficult than irl ones, and i'd strongly suggest trying to date ppl irl first before you do it online.

i might add more to this thread later on idk i'm rly sleepy and this ended up being rly long but to sum it up: stan twt relationships can be great, but only if you're willing to put in the work and take time to get to know ur partner better.