If you want to know why the Washington NFL story isn't surprising some of us, it's because we live it. In that locker room and in every locker room. In sports media, in sports non-profit, in sports brands. Everywhere.

In that locker room I was asked quietly if fellow women reporters were "DTF" and they were asked the same of me. I had team execs joke about "two hands are better than one wink wink." We watched men reporters ask players when the next poker game is while we struggled for access.

In other locker rooms and clubhouses it is the same, and every one of us who spoke up were shut out. We had to choose whether to play the game. It was no different in the newsroom and is no different in the business. Speaking up with ALWAYS mean consequences.

So I say this - and you all know who you are - if you know of women being mistreated in sports SPEAK UP. If you have information, if women have told you stories, if you have proof or knowledge, do the right thing. Because we cannot.

And you know why this won't make a difference? Because you could write this exact story about almost any sports organization if you had enough women willing to talk about it.