Ok people still aren’t understanding why a sapphic could possibly be uncomfortable with people publicly insisting relentlessly that Taylor is one of us. So here’s that perspective for those who are genuinely confused:

I think being excited that someone you stan might have something in common with you is valid but the way some of you analyze everything like “LOOK EVERYONE SHE’S A DYKE” like you’re hunting for clues reminds me of how intrusive that behavior felt to me before I came out

When you treat being gay as some scandalous juicy thing to place bets on so that if it’s confirmed you can brag about being right like you won a trophy it makes me feel like my sexuality isn’t normal. Like it’s something to laugh at and joke about. It feels dehumanizing.

hoping someone is like you for representation reasons is completely understandable. Trying to convince everyone that they’re gay and drawing attention to what you believe is their closet brings up bad memories for some people who had a shitty experience in the closet

It’s not a bad thing that you believe she isn’t straight. It’s that if she’s isn’t, why must it be treated like an “I told you so” and like everyone else is a bad person for referring to her as an ally when she’s described herself that way

This is never going to be agreed on by the entire community and I don’t expect it. All I’m asking is for people to realize it’s a lot more nuanced than “well they must have internalized homophobia” It’s dismissive and very tiring

*straight people do not interact*