things that are biphobic that you may not realize are biphobic: a thread

-saying lesbian couple/lesbian marriage or gay couple/gay marriage when you don’t know the sexualities of a couple or knowing they’re bi and still calling them that.

-having a “preference” to not date bi people
“but it’s just a preference”
take a moment to ask yourself *why* you have that preference. your reason will always be biphobic or a biphobic stereotype.

“but i dated a bisexual and x happened” “i have trauma”
bisexuals have experienced biphobia from gays and lesbians for decades yet you don’t see us refusing to date you all. also, past experiences are not a valid reason to not want to date a whole sexuality (unless it’s straight)

“but they’ve been with men/women” “i don’t want to be with someone who’s had sex with men/women”
that’s incredibly biphobic. it’s also lesbo/homophobic because many monosexual lgbt+ people have been with the “opposite sex” before.

-being hostile towards bisexuals when discussing lesbophobia/homophobia.
“stop tone policing”
there’s a difference between someone being hostile because they’re upset and someone being hostile because they have subconscious biphobia. i can’t count how many tweets that i have seen

where it’s clear that op is biphobic. many tweets show superiority complexes, biphobia, and just an underlying hatred for bisexuals. many have been very degrading as well. there’s coming after specific people and then there’s coming after bisexuals as a whole or being belittling

and degrading towards their bisexuality.

-getting upset when bisexuals talking about biphobia. even when it paints certain people of your sexuality in a bad light
-arguing with a bisexual that something you did or someone else did isn’t biphobic is biphobic. only bisexuals can decide what isn’t biphobic.

-acting like you’re the overseers of bisexuals. you are not out parents. you are not over us. stop making out flags. stop policing our identity. stop making “hot takes” about bisexual fakers. it is not your place.

-insisting that it’s canon that a character’s relationship with someone of the opposite sex is comphet when it’s not canon. they have just as much of a likelihood of being bisexual.

if your first instinct when a character is discovered to be queer but previously had a relationship with the opposite sex is that it was comphet, that’s an issue.

-getting mad at bisexuals and calling them lesbophobic/homophobic when we’re upset about a character not being bi when the character has bisexual aspects/a seemingly bisexual plotline (ie love, victor)

-saying specifically bisexuals can “oppress” gays/lesbians. it’s no different than a gay/lesbian person “oppresing” fellow gays/lesbians.

-thinking that being gay/lesbian is more valid that being bisexual or that we’re not equal to you.

the thing is, a lot of bisexuals do some of these things due to internalized biphobia. even i have done some of these things. the WHOLE community is known to do these things. and i truly believe that the majority of the lgbt+ community have some degree of biphobia.

i include myself in that. there are *still* times where i catch myself not wanting someone to be bisexual, and wanting them to be lesbian/gay instead. a lot of times i’ll still catch myself thinking i’m not as valid. it’s something we as a community really need to work on.