The Hetero Ghetto.

‘They Go to Mommy First’ https://www.nytimes.com/2020/07/15/parenting/working-moms-coronavirus.html?smid=tw-share

I thank God every day for my husband. During the 6 week hard lockdown we didn't have domestic help and had to do everything house and child related on top of work, every day.

By the end of each night we were both exhausted, completely spent. BOTH.

We planned each day out in the morning, giving each other time for work, kids and self.

We split the chores evenly in weight, not frequency but how much work goes into it. Because I did laundry, my husband took over literally every other chore lol.

As equitable as we are, he prioritized my time because Thalia tends to cling to me and he would need to find inventive ways to keep her entertained so I can work.

He was also EXTRA kind to me, often taking on additional chores or constantly offering me smoothies and coffee

He made me feel like my contribution to the household as a working adult was just as important as his. Sometimes even more. He made me feel like my goals and plans are just as important as his. My mental health, just as important.

Gilly and I tend to bicker alot, mostly because I'm petty, but over lockdown was the longest time we spent being consistently and intentionally kind to each other. We came out stronger than we've ever been.

I learned a new type of romance. One that propels you forward and outward. A productive and pragmatic way to love your life partner.

It's one of those bare minimum things that are alot harder to nail than they seem.

I bought him a fancy watch to say thank you but it will never be enough, he built me up during a time that too many women were broken down. He is grace.

Lemme stop coz I'm such a gone girl chile this could go on all day bby.