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Every time I remember part of Beyonce's motivation to film Partition as she did was cuz she took him to Crazy Horse for his Bday , saw the women dancing and wished she could do that for him ......then she did it ....and then he .....
Fuck . Just . Niggas. Wow.
Fuck . Just . Niggas. Wow.
There are days I listen to this song and I feel like the bomb , and then I remember her interview while listening to her say the lyrics, "I just wanna be the girl you like , the kinda girl you like " and pain just lances through my chest coz ....fuck ....wtf ....
Fast forward to Jay's interview on CNN? ....something ...and he says the reason he felt he had to change was the pain on her face each time she looked at him.
If I had a dollar for every time a man, said that to me . That they would change because I was in pain ....
If I had a dollar for every time a man, said that to me . That they would change because I was in pain ....
It makes me think that maybe niggas do what they do not because they're oblivious to the damage they're causing , but because they genuinely need to see their women in pain to establish some sort of dominance or importance.
It's never because they're making one bad decision, or several ....but they know that once they show you that you are replaceable in their eyes , they will finally get to see you on your knees crying over them....and that's something they may yearn for more than your love .
...and maybe that's why there's so much stigma around City Girls . Theoretically, city girls will barely give a fuck once you cross them . They move on . They skip the "why don't you love me" stage and leave the man holding his paper mache trophy.
That means he's lost all systems of control. He won't come home to you crying saying y'all need to work it out , he'll come home to an empty apartment and his shitty choices and a huge loss.
And this is why your mother's mother was praised and still is praised for holding on to shitty men. They say it's mature that they stuck around , but the only thing is see is that that maturity let them enjoy seeing her in pain over something they could have stopped.
And that's their prized definition of manhood. The one they go to war over. Putting their women in pain and watching over it as they pretend that they had no idea what they were doing was wrong. That's their idea of dominance .
That's why even when unconditional love, patience and dedication is what men say they want, they'll always end up doing someone who's giving them that dirty.
In fact , I'm willing to argue that the more you are this for the twisted male , the more likely they are to harm you .
In fact , I'm willing to argue that the more you are this for the twisted male , the more likely they are to harm you .
