I had a deep conversation with a friend recently who was going through a tough situation at the same time that I was experiencing a lot of bliss. We were both able to be authentic by staying in our own unique experience without needing to meet the other one where they are.

When we lose our center, we lose touch with the reality that, I can feel with you but the experience is yours, not mine. I have my own separate experience. When we drown in another’s experience this is counter-transference not empathy because the interpersonal boundary is blurred

In this way, empathy means you can feel in synch with another person without becoming lost in the other person’s experience. When we fail to understand this, its because we have not fully grasped the subtle nuances and complexities of the subtle human energy field.