[] In this era of the internet, we see a time where there’s much connecting between people and ideas. In this, one thing we have to remember is that such network spans male-female interactions. While this is good for understanding, it needs to be regulated. We’re still Muslims.

This thread is really meant as a proposal for operating standards for the brothers. Too often we see brothers getting comfortable with females which leads to unwanted consequences. So in order to avoid those, certain standards can be proposed and followed.

1) Always be very careful with your tone when talking to females. Ensure that your tone is formal and that you’re speaking within the grounds of respect. Avoid being too happy and emotional. Also, put a leash on your tongues so that you’re not saying anything suggestive or dirty.

(This one refers to even accidental saying something of that nature since many unfortunately are pretty awkward and don’t realize what they’re saying and that what they might have meant with pure intentions can easily be interpreted as different)

2) Never get close to any of the sisters and remain distant when speaking to them. Sure many may think this the place, especially if you’re isolated from the Shia community. I must warn you, we’re all anonymous here in one way or another. We’re not part of each other’s lives.

That is, to be clear, you don’t really mean anything in their lives and often times they already have lives that are immersive enough without you so you’re not really needed for anything. Don’t seek closeness online because it can easily cause you to develop feeling.

These feelings will be to your detriment, giving you false hopes. Simply stay cold and distant and you will not know enough to develop anything. Never share your personals because usually that leads to developing of bonds. You’re better off internalizing.

Men are stronger when they’re capable of being emotionally independent and self-sufficient. That’s necessary for your growth because in real life, very often you’ll find yourself facing the world alone. Being dependent emotionally makes you weak and vulnerable. Be strong.

3) Avoid usage of vulgarity in general but especially when talking to sisters. It’s not only dishonorable but also it can intimidate sisters into feeling unsafe online. For their sakes, we ought to create an environment where they feel safe and respected.

4) Avoid dming any sister that you haven’t interacted with substantially and even then keep things in @ rather than dms unless you think it’s necessary. In short don’t make conversation without purpose. When sisters dm you first, avoid getting comfortable and remain professional.

5) Never assume anything about their intentions and simply treat each as a professional treats a client. If it’s religious, talk as much as necessary for you to help them. If it’s personal, listen and offer the best advice possible but do not share any of your own past.

This is to avoid building the slightest connection. The purpose is that simply, don’t assume you mean anything, the interaction is important, or anything else. Stay on topic and stick to business. Basically the same way you would were you a Sheikh responding to inquiries.

Of course, this protocol is especially helpful when talking to any sister that is within your acceptable age range for marriage. Never seek to marry any sisters here, they’re not likely to accept. You’re a male whose personal life they know nothing about. You’re always suspicious

I realize we may see some of the sisters here as big sisters or little sisters almost as if they are our own sisters, and I can relate to that. But care must always be given to how the interactions proceed towards any sister younger than you, especially those close to your age.

6) Never like any personal photo a sister is in or any female is in. It is important to refrain from commenting on them as well. Simply put, just keep scrolling. Comment where you think your input might help with deen, when it comes to such posts and never ask about their bodies.

7) Of course, many of us here are very social, have a knack for comedy, and tweet a lot (myself included). I don’t see why light humor in public is problematic. We’re humans. Always remember to remain in the bounds of respect and kindness. Keep your shyness on your tongue.

8) Avoid asking them personal information unless it’s relevant to the conversation. It makes them scared and uncomfortable. Don’t ask to get contact outside of Twitter. Never establish such contact.

9) When dealing with younger sisters (teens, early 20s), never tell an ounce of personal secrets, especially those you don’t want discussed. Never trust them. Never expect them to understand. So far, the vast majority of them are young and immature and subject to mood swings.

In essence, stay away from them as much as possible. They will be friendly one day and mean the next. Especially, if you’re subject to mental breakdowns often. Be careful how you interact, sometimes, forget legitimate, even slight criticism can lead to full on attack from them.

Sometimes, some of the younger ones look wayward or lonely and you might feel sad for them. Don’t be fooled. They’re very likely to have am entire gc. They don’t need you. Also, be very careful with any sister located beyond your region.

10) If you’re isolated from Shia community, don’t seek marriage on Twitter. You will have to learn to come to terms with your solitude. The chances many of these sisters will even consider you when they already have already have plenty of people in their lives is minuscule.

If you’re not a brother with a stable job, good income, a future, and all the other attractive perks, w/ character don’t even consider marriage. If someone says anything short of this matters, they’re just blowing wind and their words are meaningless. Be real. You’re not worthy.

Stop dreaming because dreaming is useless and you sound like a fool. Instead concentrate on honing your skills and abilities that can serve Allah SWT such as knowledge or martial arts. If your passing into older ages, stop trying to hold on to your youth, you will need to let go.

11) Never allow yourself to be influenced. Contrary to modern narratives, brothers are capable of being very innocent and naive and suspect to manipulation. Don’t fall for their sweet words and allow yourself to manipulated/warped. Be careful of female intelligence agents.

Again, this is just brainstorming of ideas. These points may not all be correct. This is simply what I’ve concluded based on my experience and observations. This can be a good topic to discuss amongst us Shia brothers. As always, I’m open to all criticism and suggestions.