I& #39;m waiting for some soup to cool on the stove, so I guess I& #39;ll do a thread about gender
(no surprise reveal, just some ruminations)
(no surprise reveal, just some ruminations)
my personal relationship with gender has always been a battle between how I feel vs how others treat me and resolving the two
I have childhood toys marked "Alex" not Alice, wanted to play on the boys& #39; baseball team, hated puberty, wore suits in school choral recitals etc etc
this sounds like the start of a "and therefore I am a boy" story
but my gender expression doesn& #39;t exist in a vacuum
it interacts with society and also my *personality*
but my gender expression doesn& #39;t exist in a vacuum
it interacts with society and also my *personality*
I am very much a "works well within constraints" type person
my nightstand is a cardboard box from the last time I moved
it& #39;s fine
my nightstand is a cardboard box from the last time I moved
it& #39;s fine
I look at my body as a pile of resources assigned to me on a deserted island
cool, whatever, I& #39;ll make it work
cool, whatever, I& #39;ll make it work
I went through this whole period of researching fashion and makeup
I wasn& #39;t trying to become a specific type of woman or man
I was trying to figure out what kind of body/face I have and how to maximize its attractiveness
I wasn& #39;t trying to become a specific type of woman or man
I was trying to figure out what kind of body/face I have and how to maximize its attractiveness
I know how to dress a slim body with boobs and what haircut works with my jawline
I look good in suits and certain dress cuts and certain hairstyles
I look good in suits and certain dress cuts and certain hairstyles
I& #39;ve had conversations with friends where they& #39;re like "so you& #39;re...*something*" meaning I& #39;m *something* outside of the normal gender binary
if being apathetic and happy to fuck around with gender is nonbinary, then ok
if being apathetic and happy to fuck around with gender is nonbinary, then ok
but, the thing is, how I see myself doesn& #39;t immediately transfer to how society sees me
society sees me as a woman, has treated me like a woman, for good and for worse
society sees me as a woman, has treated me like a woman, for good and for worse
and I& #39;m not interested in investing time and resources into changing myself in hopes that society...won& #39;t treat me like shit?
(and there& #39;s no guarantee they would stop, anyway)
(and there& #39;s no guarantee they would stop, anyway)
basically I wake up in the morning and think "hello, my name is Alice. also, I have boobs." similar to "hello, my name is Alice. also, I have brown hair."
and because I have boobs, people treat me differently! they pass over me for promotions, hit on me, sexually assault me, try to take away my rights
but I& #39;m not interested in removing my boobs, because they don& #39;t personally bother me. I& #39;m apathetic.
but I& #39;m not interested in removing my boobs, because they don& #39;t personally bother me. I& #39;m apathetic.
I consider my pronouns to be the same as my cell phone number
it& #39;s a way to get ahold of me
I& #39;m still the same person on the other end of the line
I didn& #39;t change my cell number when I moved
I& #39;m not invested in changing my pronouns
it& #39;s fine
it& #39;s a way to get ahold of me
I& #39;m still the same person on the other end of the line
I didn& #39;t change my cell number when I moved
I& #39;m not invested in changing my pronouns
it& #39;s fine
maybe someday it won& #39;t be fine! but right now, I really don& #39;t care
I would rather do other things than teach people new ways to isolate me
I would rather do other things than teach people new ways to isolate me
and if I& #39;m not interested in hormones or surgery, then might as well keep being called a woman
because I& #39;ve been treated like a woman my whole damn life. it& #39;s made things HARD. I want that recognized.
because I& #39;ve been treated like a woman my whole damn life. it& #39;s made things HARD. I want that recognized.
so yeah I guess you might call me nonbinary or agender or genderfluid or WHATEVER but what matters to *me* is how society treats me
because when I& #39;m alone, I have no problems
because when I& #39;m alone, I have no problems
anyway these are just *my* personal feelings
they do not reflect the experiences or feelings of others
please respect people& #39;s pronouns and genders
they do not reflect the experiences or feelings of others
please respect people& #39;s pronouns and genders