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. @HollyConrad You used your mental health-centered platform to call me unfixable and spread the lie that I supposedly had been diagnosed with BPD, contributing to the stigma against the disorder by wielding it as a weapon against someone you don't like.
An apology should be addressed to the person you harmed, but this isn't an apology. You still believe what you said and want others to believe it, you're just upset that saying it made you look bad.
Holly has consistently used the word "abuser" to label me as irredeemable and beneath human dignity. Yesterday after *bringing me up* out of the blue to "apologize" she doubled down on the accusations that I'm unworthy of basic human decency.
It's exhausting. https://twitter.com/arhourigan/status/1283234747930615813
It's exhausting. https://twitter.com/arhourigan/status/1283234747930615813
She knows that when she says "abuser" it reminds people of their own experiences with abuse, making them automatically more sympathetic to her without knowing any actual information. Completely side stepping the conversation about what actually happened.
She believes that if I am an "abuser" it automatically absolves her of years worth of public and private cruelty toward me. It frames the conversation as one aggressor vs one victim instead of two adults who disagree.
She desperately needs to believe that to protect her own ego.
She desperately needs to believe that to protect her own ego.
I have always been willing to rationally discuss my problems with her. But she's eaten alive by her own fear and insecurity. The fear runs rampant in her mind, taking over, and then it doesn't matter what's happening in reality because she's so consumed by it.
She's living in a paranoid delusion, but she constantly demands others take action based on her hysteria. She used, "Jared's being abused, we have to save him!!" as a mechanism for destroying my marriage and countless friendships -- mutuals who believed her.
Her entire platform is built around constantly talking about mental health for years. Her "I've never said I was a expert!" is hollow and disingenuous considering that she very much set herself up as a mental health leader, whether she explicitly calls herself one or not.
Her accusations and manipulation have hounded me for years and it's still going on to this day. I can stop talking about it, but it's still happening.
I'm tired of talking about it, but I can't stop because this is incredibly dangerous behavior that needs to be exposed.
I'm tired of talking about it, but I can't stop because this is incredibly dangerous behavior that needs to be exposed.
I'm tired of being demonized. I'm not a comic book villain. I'm a real human, with both good qualities and flaws, who deserves to be treated as a rational person capable of compromise, conversation, and change.
